I can get the page counter to reset to 1
with every new group but how do I get it
to give me a total of pages in that group
and not give me the total of pages in complete report.

Check out these two papers: How to Reset the Page Number on Group Level in a Report
http://support.microsoft.com/support/kb/articles/Q104/7/60.asp?LN=EN-US&SD=gn&FR=0

How to Display "Page # of #" in the Page Header or Page Footer of a Report
http://support.microsoft.com/support/Access/Content/Nwind/T-Art_113.asp?LN=EN-US&SD=gn&FR=0