Tess:

So glad to hear that he is ok and recovering from this event. It is so scary - I can't even imagine it. Not so easy for a girlfriend of mine - her 19 year old son was killed in a car accident about 2 weeks ago. Very sad, very devastating. Her son never seemed to get that lesson, Len, about how "it can't happen to me". He was a great kid, a nice kid, just made bad decisions a lot of the time, and this is the last one he will make. Now that I have a child of my own, I just can't imagine the idea of losing her in that kind of a situation.

I feel for you, Tess, and the rest of the parents on the forum - I am not looking forward to letting my little peanut behind the wheel of a car. I told her day care teachers that she isn't driving til she's 25!!!

Lisa

I feel for you, Tess, and the rest of the parents on the forum - I am not looking forward to letting my little peanut behind the wheel of a car. I told her day care teachers that she isn't driving til she's 25!!!

Lisa

Understand how you feel but you will have to let go.

I had mixed feeling when my son flew solo for the first time. At that time he was not actually old enough to hold even a provional (learners) driving licence

He did actually havehis pilots licence before a car licence. I had to drive him to the airport so he could take me flying. oh yes I paid as well.

So its very hard at times and very sadly sometimes it goes terribly wrong

Len

Understand how you feel but you will have to let go.

So its very hard at times and very sadly sometimes it goes terribly wrong

Len

I know, I know...I have spent many years trying to keep my hands out of other people's lives, and let others make their own decisions, for whatever result may come, and I think I got a lot better at it...then I had a baby.

And I know I will have to let her make her own decisions, and live with the consequences, but that will be so difficult. Glad I have a few more years to work on that before she actually can make her own decisions!!

Lisa

We had a local fifty year old man die from a four-wheeler accident last month. Went up a hill too fast and it landed on top of him. Wasn't wearing any protective clothing.

You will NOT believe this.....
As some of you noticed a few weeks ago, I provided a link to this thread.
I CANNOT believe it myself, but as this thread ends, my 17 year old son has a car accident.
Well, wouldn't you know.... same son (only son) now 20 was just in a serious 4 car accident last Friday. His was the last car to hit the group.
His right wrist was dislocated and 3 bones in his hand/arm were fractured.
He underwent surgery just this past Tuesday.
He is ok (again) and pain is manageable.

Hmmm... maybe he shouldn't drive on Fridays.

Maybe we should avoid this thread...damn! Wish him a speedy recovery from us.

Maybe we should avoid this thread...damn! Wish him a speedy recovery from us.

Maybe YOU should avoid this thread, since everything bad seems to happen on Friday. :D

Wish him another speedy recovery for me Tess. :)

You will NOT believe this.....
As some of you noticed a few weeks ago, I provided a link to this thread.
I CANNOT believe it myself, but as this thread ends, my 17 year old son has a car accident.
Well, wouldn't you know.... same son (only son) now 20 was just in a serious 4 car accident last Friday. His was the last car to hit the group.
His right wrist was dislocated and 3 bones in his hand/arm were fractured.
He underwent surgery just this past Tuesday.
He is ok (again) and pain is manageable.

Hmmm... maybe he shouldn't drive on Fridays.

Tess, so sorry to hear your news but glad all seems to be ok. My brother was in a car accident last week but he is ok too thankfully. I was involved in a four car pile up last year too, always something isn't it!

On a brighter note and sorry if this seems like dejavu as I also mentioned this in my first postings on this thread but I have got engaged again so this second time lucky for me :)

Hay

Congratulations Hayley, I hope it works out for you this time. One important thing, what club does he support? :)

Brian

One important thing, what club does he support? :)

Brian

ManU of course:cool::D

ManU of course:cool::D

He could do if doesn't live in Manchester :p , but I expect higher standards from Hayley. :D

Brian

Congrats Hay! And sorry to hear about your son, Tess. Glad that he wasn't injured too seriously, and I hope he heals up soon.

By the way, I waited until a Monday to post in this thread. :cool:

Well, on Thursday I find out if i have been thrown on the great scrap-heap of redundancy. So it isn't just Fridays!

Well, on Thursday I find out if i have been thrown on the great scrap-heap of redundancy. So it isn't just Fridays!

Whatever day of the week its not a good day.



Happened to me on 31/12/07.

Spent 6 months practicing for retirement. Bugger all help from teh government although had worked for 46 years.

been in new job for 5 months now.

So. Hope it does not happen but if it does.

You must make things happen. Agencies will be flooded with people so use them but do not rely on them.

You must make things happen. always and stay with the program as they say. There will be black days but you must push through these and come out the other side harder, stronger and more determined.

Tough business and takea alot of drive. If you do not drive nobody will do it for you.

Again I hope it does not happen and wish you the best in seeking new opportunities.

Len

Well, on Thursday I find out if i have been thrown on the great scrap-heap of redundancy. So it isn't just Fridays!

You'll get a lump sum payout though, won't you?

Col

Tess, I hope your son is truly on the road to recovery now! Kids - they are such a worry !

HiArt, we'll all be rooting for you tomorrow, fingers crossed.

Hayley, well done, congratulations and I wish you all the hapiness this world can throw your way. Thank you for some good news :D

Well, on Thursday I find out if i have been thrown on the great scrap-heap of redundancy. So it isn't just Fridays!I have been there and then come back so just keep looking if the worst happens.

Just heard today that our company is planning to reduce the workforce by 15% over the next 3 years initially by natural wastage.

Thanks for the kind mesages.

Colin, I was forceably transfered to the private sector by the current government some years ago. I used to work for the DWP (actually been around long enough to remeber DHSS). Never changed employment contracts though; good ol' TUPE. The upshot is with 22 years service, at the age of 49 and fully reserved compensation rights I have a very, very nice lump sum coming (4.5 times anual salary, but Mr Taxman takes a good old chunk). I am sure that will cushion the blow!

Oh well, if life was easy it wouldn't be any fun!

PS
For our American cousins; TUPE stands for The Transfer of Undertakings (Protection of Employment), and basically means if your are forcably transfered to another company, for example your company is taken over, then you remain on your existing contract of employment.

Oh well, if life was easy it wouldn't be any fun!



Aye, gone are the days of the "secure" government job eh?

Quite likely there'll be a vacancy in our deptartment soon - my job. Because I've recently had a long term sickness there is talk of "dealing with my disciplinary action" when I get back - that action is directly related to me being ill. And I always thought they couldn't do that :D

Good luck today, I hope it goes favourably for you.

Quite likely there'll be a vacancy in our deptartment soon - my job. Because I've recently had a long term sickness there is talk of "dealing with my disciplinary action" when I get back - that action is directly related to me being ill. And I always thought they couldn't do that :D

Me too as due to problems with my diabeties I have only worked 2 months in the last 15! However, it used to be a breach of contract to be on sick-leave. I would threaten with possible action under the Disabilities Discrimination Act if they try anything. Chances are they wont know whether you are covered by that act or not and may moderate their poistion.

Update:
I go the boot. Hold on Job seekers agency here i come. How odd to be a consumer of a computer system I helped to develop. Ho Hum.

Update:
I go the boot. Hold on Job seekers agency here i come. How odd to be a consumer of a computer system I helped to develop. Ho Hum.

Damn!! I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you ok? You know we are all here to listen (read) if you feel like blowing off steam, sometimes it's helpful just to get it off your chest. In the mean time, we'll all be hoping that you get sorted out with a new job sooner than you expect.

Update:
I go the boot. Hold on Job seekers agency here i come. How odd to be a consumer of a computer system I helped to develop. Ho Hum.So you worked on JSA as well. I did my two years at Lytham. Perhaps we met then

Congratulations Hayley, I hope it works out for you this time. One important thing, what club does he support?

Thanks Brian, he supports Ipswich Town and I've now converted him to Rangers as well...and caused a bit of rivalry in the family as his brother has always liked Celtic. It's not my fault he chose the mickey mouse team :p

Hayley, well done, congratulations and I wish you all the hapiness this world can throw your way. Thank you for some good news :D

Happy to share some good news, it appears that things are not looking good for many at the moment especially on the job front. I'm in the Financial sector and work as a Risk Analyst. The company I work for are right at the heart of all the news on the market turmoil.

Hay

Hey All! Listen to this one: My youngest latest stretch of bad luck: Three weeks ago her boyfriend dumped her unexepectedly, last Friday she was let go from her job, and on Saturday she had two car accidents! No injuries, and the other driver was ticketed in the first accident, second accident was just a bumper to bumper tap with no damage, no ticket. But what a stretch! :(

Hey All! Listen to this one: My youngest latest stretch of bad luck: Three weeks ago her boyfriend dumped her unexepectedly, last Friday she was let go from her job, and on Saturday she had two car accidents! No injuries, and the other driver was ticketed in the first accident, second accident was just a bumper to bumper tap with no damage, no ticket. But what a stretch! :(

Wow, that's a lot to deal with anyway, much less in a 3 week period. Hopefully things will have no choice but to go up from here. Glad no one was injured in her wreck(s).

Today I feel great!

Today I feel great, and I'm not letting go of that. For the first time in over a year I feel no physical pain.

6. My daughter decided she no longer wants me in her life (on my birthday).


She'll be back;)

Do not allow physical challenges make you spiritually wounded.

For the first time in over a year I feel no physical pain.

Well we can't have that. Go and burn your hand on the stove or something. :p

Well we can't have that. Go and burn your hand on the stove or something. :p

You're very sympathetic. :)

Sorry to hear about all of your troubles, Ouma. The thing with your daughter must be especially painful though. Is it the same daughter with the gestational diabetes, or different daughter?

Glad you had at least one pain-free day today. I've been suffering from migraines a lot lately, more so than usual anyway, but that pales in comparison to all you've been going through. Hope things turn around, and I'll say a prayer for you.

Thank you all, I'm deleting that original and my replies because, OMG that was just too depressing and sounded like I was looking for sympathy. Thanks anyway guys.

ouma youv had a lot on your plate, i hope things gett beter for you soon.

Today I feel great!

Today I feel great, and I'm not letting go of that. For the first time in over a year I feel no physical pain.

That wasn't the full message? Why do you post then take away what you said? You should think things through before you commit. It's not the first time you'vr done that. :confused:

Glad your feeling good though, hope it continues for you.

Trying to unring a bell? I never thought you were looking for sympathy, I was sure you just wanted to share.

Thank you all, I'm deleting that original and my replies because, OMG that was just too depressing and sounded like I was looking for sympathy. Thanks anyway guys.

So, about a year ago, I took a road trip to pick up a friend of mine and bring them back home. On the way, I started feeling a mild pain in my abdomen. Thinking it was only my acid reflux kicking in, I took some Zantac. After about 30 minutes, the pain began to grow. It was a sharp stabbing pain, starting from my right side, and pulsing to my back and up my right shoulder. It became very intense and soon I was having difficulty breathing normally. This pain, as intense as it was, lasted about 2 hours before it left as fast as it came. I had no idea what caused it, but vowed if it happened again, I would see a doctor.

It happened again in January of this year. I was awoken in the middle of the night by the same pain, but it was even stronger than the last time. I struggled to get into my car and start driving toward the Emergency Room. The strange thing was, by the time I got to the entrance to my community, it was gone. This "attack" lasted about 15 minutes max. I still had no idea what it was, but began to research online.

A month later, another attack woke me from dead sleep. This time the pain was so intense, I could hardly breathe at all. I called 911 and they rushed me to the hospital. At the hospital, the doctor seemed to ignore me completely. I explained the pain and he kept shrugging it off, insisting it was an ulcer. I explained that would be impossible, as I have acid reflux and use acid inhibitors on a daily basis, which is prescribed for ulcers as well to allow the stomach to heal. I had also seen people with ulcers, and they were in consistent but not severe pain for days, not minutes to hours at a time. He still shrugged me off and sent me home with recommendations to see a gastrologist. By this time, the pain was gone, so I left.

A month later, while coming back from Salt Lake City on a business trip, I had another attack. I went to the hospital immediately upon returning home and this time the doctor listened to me. He did an ultrasound and found gallstones in my gallbladder. They wanted to immediately admit me for the weekend and perform surgery to remove my gallbladder on Monday. The pain was gone, so I refused and said I would set up an appointment. I had never had surgery before, so wasn't about to rush into it without research and alternatives.

For educational purposes, the gallbladder is a small organ attached to the small intestine and liver. The liver creates bile from cholesterol and stores the bile in the gallbladder. Bile digests fats. When you eat fatty foods, the stomach sends a signal to the gallbladder to release more bile into the intestine to break down the fats. No one knows what causes gallstones, but they are formed by hardened cholesterol. When the gallbladder attempts to pump bile into the intestine and the bile duct is blocked by a gallstone, the gallbladder becomes inflamed, hence the intense pain radiating up the back and abdomen, and the inability to breathe due to the pressure on the lungs and pancreas. I've spoken to many women who have compared the pain from gallstones with natural childbirth without painkillers.

My case seemed relatively mild. I read about many people who had a case so severe that everytime they ate, it caused pain. Mine were months apart since I rarely ate fast food. I did notice that everytime I had an attack, it was from fast food, so I decided to try an alternative. I changed my diet completely. I have not touched fast food since March and don't intend to again. No french fries drenched in grease. No burgers soaking in fat. Nothing! I began to eat a lot of greens and fruits as well. I had NO attacks for months... until two weeks ago...

Two weeks ago, I cheated. I ate homemade alfredo. I couldn't resist. I knew it was fattening, but I had eaten plenty of fattening food before my diet changed and still rarely had an attack, so I figured, what could it hurt? It was a costly mistake. I ended up having a severe, 12 hour attack. When I got to the hospital, my blood pressure was 190/105 and pulse rate was around 120. I was shaking uncontrollably. They immediately admitted me into the ER to monitor me. My blood pressure soon dropped, but the pain was still unbearable. They couldn't give me drugs due to the MRI tests they had to do to make sure my pancreas was okay. When they took my blood, my sugar levels were dangerously far from normal due to my inflammed gallbladders pressure on my pancreas. When the pain stopped, they checked my blood continuously for two days until it was normal. During this period, I had no solid food, and only had a block of about an hour a day for a liquid diet. It was terrible. I knew it was time to have it removed.

They did the surgery laproscopically. They cut very small incisions on the abdomen, without cutting muscle, and fill you up with gas. They then use cameras and lasers to remove the gallbladder. Two hours later, they discharged me. I was in severe pain for two days, mainly due to the gas moving around in my body. You literally have to "walk it off" to have the gas naturally leave you body, you can imagine how much fun that was! :D

Two weeks later, I'm gallbladderless. I am relatively pain free. I still plan on keeping my low fat diet, mainly because I just feel healthier. It is a relief to know I'll never feel gallstone pain again. (although on very rare occasions they can form in the liver and still get stuck in the bile duct)

That is "what's happening" with me. I guess it's all a part of getting older, your body starts telling you to treat yourself better. I don't want to lose any more organs. :)

Wow, didn't realize I typed all of that! Sorry guys... :o

Oh Vassago, my heart goes out to you. Operations can appear barbaric! You've been through the mill! I hope you are feeling better now.

Presumably the gall blader is something you don't particularly need? Are you ok without it? Do you still get reflux, or was that all part and parcel?

And don't worry about the old age thing, the beauty of it all is, I am told, you become so forgetful you forget all the nasties ;)

OK, here's my horror story. They thought I had this thing called temporal artritis the only way to prove it was to biopsy the temple and even this was no guarantee because in 50% cases it gives a false negative, but it was the best they could offer. The biopsy consisted of removing the end of the temporal artery (the temple, next to the eye). No problem, until you find that they give you a local anasthetic for it! Not only that, they have a student performing the op and I had to lay there and listen to the professor talk him through the procedure!:eek: Oh, and the result was negative but they treated me for it anyway!

Oh Vassago, my heart goes out to you. Operations can appear barbaric! You've been through the mill! I hope you are feeling better now.

Presumably the gall blader is something you don't particularly need? Are you ok without it? Do you still get reflux, or was that all part and parcel?

And don't worry about the old age thing, the beauty of it all is, I am told, you become so forgetful you forget all the nasties ;)

OK, here's my horror story. They thought I had this thing called temporal artritis the only way to prove it was to biopsy the temple and even this was no guarantee because in 50% cases it gives a false negative, but it was the best they could offer. The biopsy consisted of removing the end of the temporal artery (the temple, next to the eye). No problem, until you find that they give you a local anasthetic for it! Not only that, they have a student performing the op and I had to lay there and listen to the professor talk him through the procedure!:eek: Oh, and the result was negative but they treated me for it anyway!

The gallbladder is something you can live without. I do still have acid reflux issues, but they seem to be slightly improved at least.

A biopsy of the temple!? That sounds scary enough without knowing who was doing it to you. What were the treatments? I hope they weren't too invasive.

The gallbladder is something you can live without. I do still have acid reflux issues, but they seem to be slightly improved at least.

A biopsy of the temple!? That sounds scary enough without knowing who was doing it to you. What were the treatments? I hope they weren't too invasive.

I don't know why they put these things into the human body that we can live without :rolleyes: I'm glad you're doing ok without it though.

The treatments were masses, and I mean masses, of steroids and pain killers. I didn't know what planet I was on half the time which was good, because looking at our Christmas photos, it looks like I was a planet lol! But, hay, I'm fine now, all the other ops were, also exploratory and I at least got to sleep through them :D

I don't know why they put these things into the human body that we can live without :rolleyes: I'm glad you're doing ok without it though.

The treatments were masses, and I mean masses, of steroids and pain killers. I didn't know what planet I was on half the time which was good, because looking at our Christmas photos, it looks like I was a planet lol! But, hay, I'm fine now, all the other ops were, also exploratory and I at least got to sleep through them :D

That was such a strange feeling, being put under. I've never had that done before. I expected to wake up and not know where I was, but surprisingly, I was fully aware of where I was and what had just happened. I was in severe pain though, and very thankful for morphine. ;)

Hey Vass,

Sorry to hear that you have been unwell of late and glad that you are finally on the mend. Sounds like you've had a real time of it. You need to look after yourself now :)

I actually have a metal rod in my spine, had the op when I was around 12. Basically I had a curve in my spine and if I didn't have the op I would have had no quality of life.The hospital staff used to joke saying they hope I don't set any shop or airport alarms off lol...well it's never happened to me yet so I think I'm safe enough! Other than that I'm glad to say I've always been pretty healthy and managed to steer clear of hospitals so can't complain really :)

Get well soon Vas
Hay

Hi Vass,

How much did all that cost? Also, what would have happened if you hadn't been insured? (I'm guessing you are)

Glad your on the mend mate.

Col

glad everyone is ok and just getting older -

personally - just had surgery to sort my teeth out -doesn't sound like much I know but 8 operations - inner top left outer top left - inner top right -outer top right ..etc - i wish they would of done it all in one go- a small bone graft

each session lasted about 2-3 hours (except the last one - 4 hours- )basically upside down on a local .... then the stichies - in and out - pain killers - side effect lumps on my neck that had to be check out ...
all clear now - thank god for the NHS - spoke to a dentist and they said the work i had done would of been £10k +-- ok so it was a student doctor -she was very attractive -otherwise i don't think i would of gone through with it..)
now it doesn't hurt when i eat... (there was nothing wrong with the teeth - it was the bones - holding them in that need sorting ..

butt his is pretty mild compared to you guys ..

anyway my daughter is being a minx (aged 3.5 going on 13)
she has me wrapped round her little finger

Now I remember why I posted my original post! Puts it all into perspective when you realise you're not the only one in the world who's had it rough. Not that I'm happy about anyone else's suffering, honest :o

glad everyone is ok and just getting older - yeah, wait till it hits you lol.

butt his is pretty mild compared to you guys ..


Don't know about that, most people hate the dentist and it could have lead to much worse if it hadn't been fixed. I'm glad you're on the mend.

anyway my daughter is being a minx (aged 3.5 going on 13)
she has me wrapped round her little finger
Don't expect that to change anytime. My daughter is 30 now and still has her dad wrapped around her finger, it's just me she hates :rolleyes:

Wow, didn't realize I typed all of that! Sorry guys... :o
You have some bloody gall posting that!:p
Get well soon old man:D

My daughter is 30 now and still has her dad wrapped around her finger, it's just me she hates :rolleyes:
Bloody kids! Why do we have em?;)

Bloody kids! Why do we have em?;)

All I can say is thank God I'm a crack shot with a rifle, I got that bloody stork first time :D

Hey Vass,

Sorry to hear that you have been unwell of late and glad that you are finally on the mend. Sounds like you've had a real time of it. You need to look after yourself now :)

I actually have a metal rod in my spine, had the op when I was around 12. Basically I had a curve in my spine and if I didn't have the op I would have had no quality of life.The hospital staff used to joke saying they hope I don't set any shop or airport alarms off lol...well it's never happened to me yet so I think I'm safe enough! Other than that I'm glad to say I've always been pretty healthy and managed to steer clear of hospitals so can't complain really :)

Get well soon Vas
Hay

Wow, that sounds far more serious of a surgery than mine. Glad to hear it's worked out good for you. :) Thanks for the "get well" wishes.

Hi Vass,

How much did all that cost? Also, what would have happened if you hadn't been insured? (I'm guessing you are)

Glad your on the mend mate.

Col

I'm not sure how much it will cost me or my insurance company yet. It's only been a couple weeks now, so I guess I'll have to wait and see. :(

If I wasn't insured, they still would have had to do the procedure. It can quickly escalate to a life threatening position and I was nearly there. One of my friends wasn't so lucky with the same issue and his liver ended up going into failure. He went jaundice pretty quickly. The last I heard he was doing better and his liver was recovering, but I haven't spoken to him lately.

You have some bloody gall posting that!:p
Get well soon old man:D

Not anymore! :D

Thank you, young lad! :)

The design of the human body is a true mystery - extra parts we do not need is one thing - but why we have 10 fingers and 10 toes and only one or two of the fun bits is quite unfair...

I don't know why they put these things into the human body that we can live without :rolleyes: I'm glad you're doing ok without it though.

The treatments were masses, and I mean masses, of steroids and pain killers. I didn't know what planet I was on half the time which was good, because looking at our Christmas photos, it looks like I was a planet lol! But, hay, I'm fine now, all the other ops were, also exploratory and I at least got to sleep through them :D

The design of the human body is a true mystery - extra parts we do not need is one thing - but why we have 10 fingers and 10 toes and only one or two of the fun bits is quite unfair...

If we had more than one or two of the fun bits, it would be bloody hard to make excuses to do anything more than play with them all day! LOL.. perhaps prehistoric humans actually DID have more than one or two and they all died out because they didn't have the motivation to hunt and gather food... and those poor sots with one or two were the only ones who had the sense to survive.

:)

If we had more than one or two of the fun bits, it would be bloody hard to make excuses to do anything more than play with them all day! LOL.. perhaps prehistoric humans actually DID have more than one or two and they all died out because they didn't have the motivation to hunt and gather food... and those poor sots with one or two were the only ones who had the sense to survive.

:)

I still sometimes lack the motivation to do anything else... :p :D

The treatments were masses, and I mean masses, of steroids and pain killers. I didn't know what planet I was on half the time which was good, because looking at our Christmas photos, it looks like I was a planet lol! But, hay, I'm fine now, all the other ops were, also exploratory and I at least got to sleep through them :D

LOL, I was just speaking to a friend of mine who was saying that since she was put on Steroids she's gained more female friends, but her male freinds avoid her now. she has put on a lot of weight and its a shame because she was probably one of the most pretty women i no. have you found that. :eek:

Wow, that sounds far more serious of a surgery than mine. Glad to hear it's worked out good for you. :) Thanks for the "get well" wishes.

Thanks Vass, the rod slipped not long after the surgery and they thought they were going to have to operate again but thankfully it wasn't necessary and I've not had anymore problems.

Now for some good news....we have just set our wedding date for 9th July next year :)

Hay

Thanks Vass, the rod slipped not long after the surgery and they thought they were going to have to operate again but thankfully it wasn't necessary and I've not had anymore problems.

Now for some good news....we have just set our wedding date for 9th July next year :)

Hay
Where was the rod going?
Is this the right man now ?;)

Where was the rod going?

I'm afraid I can't answer all these technical questions :p

Is this the right man now ?;)

Yes most definately. I mean an englishman agreeing to get married in Scotland (I think he said it was 2 days prior to the world cup final) and he's hoping the English will be celebrating in our back garden, of course we know you'll never actually make the final :p but if by chance you get lucky the divorce will be a week later :eek:

Hay

Yes most definately. I mean an englishman agreeing to get married in Scotland (I think he said it was 2 days prior to the world cup final) and he's hoping the English will be celebrating in our back garden, of course we know you'll never actually make the final :p but if by chance you get lucky the divorce will be a week later :eek:

Hay
The only drawback being that he won't be able to watch England winning the world cup in Scotland:D

The only drawback being that he won't be able to watch England winning the world cup in Scotland:D

Well he could if you were actually good enough :p

Anyways the pub is calling now Richey :eek:

Hay

Well he could if you were actually good enough :p

Anyways the pub is calling now Richey :eek:

Hay
And speedway is calling for me, watch out for your units tonight;)

Now for some good news....we have just set our wedding date for 9th July next year :)

Hay

Don't do it!!!!


...I mean Congrats! :D (in case he's looking over your shoulder...) ;)

Congrats Hay, I hope he deserves you. Is he from Essex? Not Col is it? He's married you know.

Brian

Congrats Hay, I hope he deserves you. Is he from Essex? Not Col is it? He's married you know.

Brian

You mean marred?
Never mind, I keep forgetting that only my husband and I think that's funny.

Now for some good news....we have just set our wedding date for 9th July next year :)

Hay

Sorry to hear about the rod Hayley, wow, I'm so glad that was so successfull, you can even go skiing. You're an amazing young woman and I hope your husband - to - be knows that and spoils you every day of your life :D

This is fantastic news! By the way, I love virtual wedding cake, it's the best - everyone gets a slice the exact flavour they want (with the exception of Arnold Rimmer of course :D)

Look I can't take the grin off my face I'm so happy for you. :D :D :D :D

Congrats Hay, I hope he deserves you. Is he from Essex? Not Col is it? He's married you know.

Brian

Thanks Brian! He is indeed from Essex and he is also originally from Colchester but no I can assure you that it is not Col.

Sorry to hear about the rod Hayley, wow, I'm so glad that was so successfull, you can even go skiing. You're an amazing young woman and I hope your husband - to - be knows that and spoils you every day of your life

This is fantastic news! By the way, I love virtual wedding cake, it's the best - everyone gets a slice the exact flavour they want (with the exception of Arnold Rimmer of course )

Look I can't take the grin off my face I'm so happy for you. ]

Ahh someone has been reading the skiing thread I see :) That was fun that was and courtesy of my work as well. They paid for that whole trip but those days are gone now that we have grown so much. I can do most things now but not allowed to do bunjee jumping or anything like that (not that I'd fancy that anyway) too scary for me!

Yeah my fiance is very good to me, couldn't be happier :D We've gone for Dunfermline Abbey for our special day. I'm sure being from the capital you will be aware of it!

Thanks for the good wishes
Hay

You're an amazing young woman and I hope your husband - to - be knows that and spoils you every day of your life :D


Hi, I'm the man in question. Got to say I am the happiest man in the world, she is a really, really amazing woman and I can't wait for our wedding day!

You have my word that I will do EVERYTHING in my power to keep her happy and spoil her rotten. She's one in a million!!!

The only drawback being that he won't be able to watch England winning the world cup in Scotland:D

Hayley's already threatened to file for divorce if that happens. :(

The Honeymoon would be, errr, interesting if England did win it. :D

Hayley's already threatened to file for divorce if that happens. :(

The Honeymoon would be, errr, interesting if England did win it. :D

What a shame that you won't live to enjoy it :p

Hay

Hayley's already threatened to file for divorce if that happens. :(

The Honeymoon would be, errr, interesting if England did win it. :D
Trouble is that if you're awarded a penalty you're unlikey to score;)

Trouble is that if you're awarded a penalty you're unlikey to score;)

I will against a Scottish goalie. :D

*awaits the customary slapping from his future spouse*

I will against a Scottish goalie. :D

*awaits the customary slapping from his future spouse*

against or with? :o

Hi, I'm the man in question. Got to say I am the happiest man in the world, she is a really, really amazing woman and I can't wait for our wedding day!

You have my word that I will do EVERYTHING in my power to keep her happy and spoil her rotten. She's one in a million!!!

I will hold you to that Jezz. I'm pleased the two of you are happy and hope that every day your love will grow stronger.

I will against a Scottish goalie. :D

*awaits the customary slapping from his future spouse*Give him one from me Hay! :D

I will against a Scottish goalie. :D

*awaits the customary slapping from his future spouse*
Just don't slip up on the run up

We have finally moved in to our new house today.

It's been a trial of patience.
We had it painted, put some beautiful wood flooring down.... changed out the nasty flourescent lights in the kitchen to some lovely can lights..... installed crown moulding in the living room... tiled the kitchen..... and then we were finally ready to move in.

It's our first night here.

I'm sitting on the pool deck reflecting on my life.

We've had hard times. We were married young and started our family straight away with no regard as to how we would support ourselves, If I had been my my mother, I would have tried to talk some sense into my dear, naive daughter. I would have told her that you just can't live on love and that you have to have a plan.

We had no real plans. We just wanted to be happy. We went through some VERY hard times, but....... I was unpacking some photographs today, while moving into our new house. So many of them made me smile. I placed them around our new bathroom vanity while we proceeded with our move to remind myself of other times. I was surprised and encouraged to see that, even though we had started our life together quite poor, our children always looked happy. It brought joy to my heart to see this. And it made me proud. It made me proud of .... not just the fact that we've made our children a happy life, but that I had children that could be happy in some pretty rough financial times.

One picture, in particular, struck a chord with me. It was when we had bought our first, and only other house, eleven years ago. We both had better jobs than previous years, and my company had given me some financial incentive to relocate. (Not a lot of incentive... Just 2 grand which we used for a down payment on our first home. But that was a LOT of money to us.) We had been renting a 3 BR house for 10 years at this point. We had three children. The oldest girl had a room of her own, due to her status of being the oldest, and her age (13).

She was awarded a room of her own, in lage part, becuase of my own experiences as a young girl. MY family was comprised of 3 girls, VERY close in age, and a baby brother seven years my junior. We girls shared one room whilst the baby had his own private nursery. I was the oldest. I had NO privacy at all and VERY little space to share. At the age of 11, I asked to be moved to the attic, which was the only space available. My request was approved and I spent 2 happy years while my parents were still together, in that unheated but private and personal space. Seriously, it was like I had my own little apartment!!!!

But I digress. My oldest daughter had her own room. My other two children had been sharing a room for the last couple of years but now had the luxury of their own respective spaces. And it was about time too. My middle child, a daughter, was 11 and my youngest, a son, was 10. It was time to split them up and give them some privacy.

One morning, soon after our new move, I went into my middle daughter's room, to wake her up from school. I found my son and daughter in the same bed! They looked so sweet sleeping together. They had shared a room for quite a while.... I thought it was so tender .... I grabbed my camera and went back to take a picture of them sleeping together. As I was focusing, both of them started to stiir and stretch awake. I caught the moment of them both stretching. They looked so alike. They mirrored each other, almost. It's one of my favorite pictures.

So today, my middle daughter, who no longer lives with us, came over to see our new house. That picture was still on my vanity. She asked me, "Do you know why we were in the same bed?" I admitted I did not. She told me, "We shared a room for so long. Even though we were happy to have our own rooms in the new house, we didn't know how to go to sleep without talking to each other. We used to talk until we fell asleep every night. We just weren't used to being alone."

Well, we're pretty much moved in to our new house. The second house we've ever owned and the third house we've ever lived in as a family and I have to say, I couldn't be happier right now.... at this moment...... unless of course I thought about it. :) But no. No... I won't. I won't think about how it could be better. I'll think about how good it is now. and I'll go to sleep thinking about how much better it was then than I thought it was too.

Tess, many moons ago you wrote that you had difficulty expressing yourself in arguments on the forum, that obviously does not apply when talking about things you love, that was one of the best posts I've ever read, I hope that you continue to be as happy as you are now.

Brian

Tess, many moons ago you wrote that you had difficulty expressing yourself in arguments on the forum, that obviously does not apply when talking about things you love, that was one of the best posts I've ever read, I hope that you continue to be as happy as you are now.

Brian

Thank you, Brian.
You are one of the kindest people I know.
I'm really glad you enjoyed the post.
Perhaps the reason I can write so well about the things I love is that those feelings are more mature than the feelings I have about certain topics of arguments. The things I hold nearest to my heart have to do with my family They are the center of my world. Of course I can express myself fluently in this area because I spend a lot of time dwelling upon them. I am an expert in loving my family. I am NOT an expert in arguing. (My husband may disagree! lol)

But most of the things that are argued here in the forum, I have spent precious little time thinking about. I have opinions. Just not particularly educated ones. So, I'll leave world politics in the hands of people who know more than I. I suppose I am a simple person. And maybe I am selfish, but the things I hold dear are in this order of importance.

My family
My friends
My community
My nation
My world

See how it radiates from me?

LOL.... I used to joke to my husband about this. I would say, "I can prove to you that the world revolves around me." And then I would stand up, turn in a complete circle and say, "See? I just did a 360 and everything I saw was around me. I am the center. I am the center of the universe."

I joke, but it is true. The things that are most imporatant to me are the things that are closest to me. I don't make excuses for this. And sometimes I am shamed to say that things that happen outside "my world", although they will most definitely have some impact on the things I hold most dear, if they are not immediately threatening , I give little thought to it. This is not to say I give NO thought to it. I just don't dwell upon it. I think I have less and less impact upon issues the further they radiate out from me.

I think I'm rambling. See how these thoughts are just thoughts? :) And I have no idea if I'm adequately expressing them. But ask me about my children and family and every time, you'll hear my heart.

I think I'm rambling.

Ramble on my darling, we love to hear from you :p

But most of the things that are argued here in the forum, I have spent precious little time thinking about. I have opinions. Just not particularly educated ones. So, I'll leave world politics in the hands of people who know more than I. I suppose I am a simple person. And maybe I am selfish, but the things I hold dear are in this order of importance.

My family
My friends
My community
My nation
My world

.

I think that you are just being honest and saying how most of us are.

As for not having educated opinions I had a colleague, Geoff, who loved to argue, one day that black was white, the next that white was black. His mantra was " never let facts get in the way of a good argument". I often think that Rich and Col have a bit of Geoff in them. He was great fun.

Brian

That truly is a wonderful post Tess... I felt like I was reading a autobiography. :)

Have you thought about writing one? :p

Actually, I have been interested in writing for most of my life.
And from time to time, I have thought about putting some memories down on paper (or into bytes) but for the most part, I've just not put aside the time.
I should though. For my kids.

:) Thanks for the encouragement.
I'm really glad you enjoyed it!

I should though. For my kids.


But will it be spicy for us?;)

Oh heck no! I sell that stuff to select magazines!

Oh heck no! I sell that stuff to select magazines!

I think I've read a couple of those stories... :eek:

Hey Guys,

Thought I'd share some more good news with you all, I've just been offered the Managers position in our department after my boss handed her notice in. I am doing it on a temporary basis for now but if I want it on a permanent basis, it looks as though I am on the move back to Edinburgh. Lots to think about but looks like an excellent opportunity.

Hay

Hey Guys,

Thought I'd share some more good news with you all, I've just been offered the Managers position in our department after my boss handed her notice in. I am doing it on a temporary basis for now but if I want it on a permanent basis, it looks as though I am on the move back to Edinburgh. Lots to think about but looks like an excellent opportunity.

Hay

Very good to hear! Congrats! :D

Very good to hear! Congrats! :D

Thanks Vass! Hope things are picking up for you too :)

Hey Guys,

I am on the move back to Edinburgh. Lots to think about but looks like an excellent opportunity.

Hay
Don't forget to pac a mac. :p
Well done by the way, pity you'll miss the English league though:cool:

Don't forget to pac a mac. :p
Well done by the way, pity you'll miss the English league though:cool:

Back to my beloved Gers though Richey :D:D The way Ipswich are playing at the moment I'm probably doing my other half a favour, besides he always said he wanted to explore the scottish grounds.

Going to see Gers in a double header against Aberdeen and Sevilla in the CL next week...can't wait!!

Some Manchester derby at the weekend as well huh, a scotsman bagging two goals for you too :cool:

Hay

Some Manchester derby at the weekend as well huh, a scotsman bagging two goals for you too :cool:

Hay
We won having trained a Scotsman:cool::p

We won having trained a Scotsman:cool::p

...and having paid the referee to add so much extra time on :p

...and having paid the referee to add so much extra time on :p
Nah, sour grapes from the losers:p

The way Ipswich are playing at the moment I'm probably doing my other half a favour...

Hmpffffffffff :(

Hi everyone, thought I'd say hello. Just wondering, has anyone studied the ECDL (European Computer Driving License) qualification? I've completed 6 of the 7 modules, with the outstanding module being Access.

I've not really used (or needed, although I recognise that I could probably benefit from using it in future) Access, does anyone know if this module is fairly easy from a non-user point of view?

Hi everyone, thought I'd say hello. Just wondering, has anyone studied the ECDL (European Computer Driving License) qualification? I've completed 6 of the 7 modules, with the outstanding module being Access.

I've not really used (or needed, although I recognise that I could probably benefit from using it in future) Access, does anyone know if this module is fairly easy from a non-user point of view?

Hi JezzaBelle

I did the ECDL a few years ago. I already used Access so did find it easy, but from what I recall it was fairly simple. Providing you study the practice material and do the on-line tests first you should be fine. My sister did it and she was a non-user of Access and she found it okay! You might even get a taste for it!!

Hope it goes well!

Ally