I agree CJ, that is what I have and I guess that's part of the problem. But what I don't understand is that I don't have these speed/network related issues in the non-split configuration.
The non-split version is on the same network share.
I believe it has to do with opening and closing the recordlock file, so now I prepared a hook into the backend to see if that helps.
Like I said, I also found out that there are many tweaks possible to improve things (data sheet view in tables, auto correct options etc).
But to go back to the OP and not to hijack this thread, make sure you do some thorough testing ...