Two Guys marry in Antarctica... (1 Viewer)

Uncle Gizmo

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Nothing wrong with that at all. But strangely, the picture:-


provoked some questions deep in the whirling cogs of my strange mind.

The man on the right in the kilt, is the kilt symbolic of a dress? Is he emphasising that he is the feminine part of this marriage?

That begs the question are there male/female analogs in a gay marriage?

Then worst is to come! I imagine myself in a gay marriage, would I be the male or the female? And more troubling is my answer, the fact that my mind produced an answer! I would be the female and that thought is really really messing with my head!
 

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That begs the question are there male/female analogs in a gay marriage?
Yes, but with limitations. I have a friend who is a lesbian and we spent a lot of time together when I was in Spain as a geo-bachelor. Going with social constructs, the male is the dominant partner even though we all know that is not the case for some. In my own marriage, I often defer to my wife unless it is absolutly something I disagree with. To date, I have only "put my foot down" 3 times in the 10 years we have been married.

Anyway...

Calling a lesbian the "male" or "bull" in the relationship is not popular for obvious reasons so they have adopted the word "Top" to signify the dominant person in the relationship. I asked her if that was derived from the traditional missionary position males take and she said yes. When I hinted that this plays into the very social construct she was avoiding, she told me to shut up and drink my beer...
 

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When I hinted that this plays into the very social construct she was avoiding, she

I've heard the terms top and bottom... Bottom always conjures up a peculiar image in my mind when I think of a gay couple.
 

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Married gays do, in fact, often identify as the "wife" & "husband" of a same-sex pairing. Has to do with the household and romantic roles they assume. I've known several such pairings. It is quite rare to have a completely co-equal pairing. One is usually the more dominant member of the relationship and assumes the "husband" role. The more submissive partner assumes the "wife" role.
 

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