Here an example of the WHERE NOT IN I was talking about. This might be close to what you are looking for.
and http://www.fmsinc.com/Microsoftaccess/query/outer-join/index.html might be better than the last link I gave you.
Code:
SELECT Sales.InvoiceNo, Sales.OrderDateTime, Sales.ContactName
FROM Sales
WHERE CStr(Sales.InvoiceNo) NOT IN (SELECT SalesReceipt.RefNumber FROM SalesReceipt)
and http://www.fmsinc.com/Microsoftaccess/query/outer-join/index.html might be better than the last link I gave you.