Ethical Dilemmas
- Thread starter JBishton
- Start date
R
Rich
Guest
when are you going to start?jsanders said:
R
Rich
Guest
who'd want to hunt him?Kraj said:I'm sure you'd be perfect for hunting.
selenau837
Can still see y'all......
- Local time
- Today, 00:57
- Joined
- Aug 26, 2005
- Messages
- 2,211
Well, I do hope things work out for you.
I can truly understand how you feel. Woman to woman.
Hang in there and it will all work out. Just if you ever feel down ect, just look at your two beautiful children and they will brighten your day.
I do know that is the only thing that keeps me going every day.
There is also he abuse I suffer here, but that is another story.
You both are in my prayers.
I can truly understand how you feel. Woman to woman.
Hang in there and it will all work out. Just if you ever feel down ect, just look at your two beautiful children and they will brighten your day.
I do know that is the only thing that keeps me going every day.
There is also he abuse I suffer here, but that is another story.
You both are in my prayers.
- Local time
- Today, 00:57
- Joined
- Feb 19, 2002
- Messages
- 44,313
I guess I don't understand why this person is still your "best friend" if he sexually harassed your girlfriend of 18 months.
jsanders
If I Only had a Brain
- Local time
- Today, 00:57
- Joined
- Jun 2, 2005
- Messages
- 1,940
Pat Hartman said:
That's a good question Pat. But the answer is really complicated.
She has not forgiven him and I won’t forget it. But 18 years of loyalty is hard to overlook. He has been there for me on many occasions when no one else would.
As far as my girlfriend is concerned, she is moving on, and it’s a testimony to her resilience and compassion that she is ok with my staying friends with him.
Part of why I am, is that although I have many friends, dozens actually, he really only has one.
How can I not forgive him?
How can you not forgive him? Are you Kidding me? I think: you Dont forgive and if you Have to Then you deal with him.
Pat, it bugs me. It used to really bug me. But I asked Joe not to say anything to my boss, so if anything, shame on me.
Pat, it bugs me. It used to really bug me. But I asked Joe not to say anything to my boss, so if anything, shame on me.
ShaneMan
Registered User.
- Local time
- Yesterday, 21:57
- Joined
- May 9, 2005
- Messages
- 1,224
Hey Mr. Sanders,
I guess since ya'll have opened this, it's ok to ask questions and comment.
Did your friend know that Jen was your girlfriend at the time he did this? If so, then in my opinion, he crossed two lines. One to pinch Jen in the first place and the other would be to disrespect you enough to do what he did, knowing she was your girl. I would have to confront my friend, even if my girlfriend asked me not to, and it would be in such a way as to let him know that he took advantage of our friendship and that's the only reason he's not getting kicked in his back pockets. 18 years is a long time to be friends, but at the same time it shouldn't be something that he uses to get away with something that is just flat wrong. It has put you and Jen both in a pickle. Jen could probably react in a much different way if it wasn't your friend who did it and you probably would too.
I guess for me, if I was in the same situation, would have to look at it as I something that I didn't want to have to address but that I'm not going to just let go away cause he's my friend. I would think (hope) my wife would respect me a lot more for wanting to defend her honor rather than defend my friend.
Hope I wasn't too straight forward, it's just my opinion.
Shane
I guess since ya'll have opened this, it's ok to ask questions and comment.
Did your friend know that Jen was your girlfriend at the time he did this? If so, then in my opinion, he crossed two lines. One to pinch Jen in the first place and the other would be to disrespect you enough to do what he did, knowing she was your girl. I would have to confront my friend, even if my girlfriend asked me not to, and it would be in such a way as to let him know that he took advantage of our friendship and that's the only reason he's not getting kicked in his back pockets. 18 years is a long time to be friends, but at the same time it shouldn't be something that he uses to get away with something that is just flat wrong. It has put you and Jen both in a pickle. Jen could probably react in a much different way if it wasn't your friend who did it and you probably would too.
I guess for me, if I was in the same situation, would have to look at it as I something that I didn't want to have to address but that I'm not going to just let go away cause he's my friend. I would think (hope) my wife would respect me a lot more for wanting to defend her honor rather than defend my friend.
Hope I wasn't too straight forward, it's just my opinion.
Shane
Last edited:
In my opinion, whether the guy has a pattern of unacceptable behavior makes a big difference. If this was an isolated incident then... yes, it was totally unacceptable but sometimes people do stupid or bad things but that doesn't make them horrible people. If good people didn't make mistakes, then we'd never need to forgive anyone. Has he ever appologized or tried to rectify the situation in any way?
If this has been a continuing problem, though, then I don't think history is a good enough reason to stand by him. Part of being someone's friend is accepting their faults, but sometimes a friend's faults outweigh their positive contribution to your life.
If this has been a continuing problem, though, then I don't think history is a good enough reason to stand by him. Part of being someone's friend is accepting their faults, but sometimes a friend's faults outweigh their positive contribution to your life.
R
Rich
Guest
Don't you have any laws against sexual harassment over there or even common assault ?
R
Rich
Guest
Kraj said:No, Rich, there are no laws whatsoever in the United States against sexual harassment or assault.
ColinEssex
Old registered user
- Local time
- Today, 05:57
- Joined
- Feb 22, 2002
- Messages
- 9,249
Well that explains many thingsKraj said:No, Rich, there are no laws whatsoever in the United States against sexual harassment or assault.
Col
selenau837
Can still see y'all......
- Local time
- Today, 00:57
- Joined
- Aug 26, 2005
- Messages
- 2,211
There are many laws, however unless you want to be jobless you tend not to tell on people. That is the sad part, it still goes on everywhere. They urge people to report it, but if you do you lose your job and have a hard time finding another. *sighs*
