religion condemns wanton women even though it was a man who had to be there to start that baby. But, you see, religion doesn't want to lay blame on men because modern religion is STILL patriarchal. There is still some of that "Man is the Lord and Master of his household" foolishness from 2000 or more years ago. It is time for all religions to come into the 21st century and examine our tough realities. Hell, I'd settle for getting them into the late 20th century.
There is an old saying that "If MEN could get pregnant, abortion wouldn't be a sin. It would be a sacrament."
I've heard this asserted and repeated a lot, with no actual experience (from mine anyway) to support it (I'm referring mostly to prominent American religions, since that's what we're talking about - and since it's that religion that is what you're saying is the basis for anti-abortion laws, mostly).
None of my religious upbringing, nor any of the religious events/literature/material that I've had the chance to review, have ever emphasized any type of "guilt" of a woman
over that of a man in this circumstance. (There's no need to bring up Islam or the Taliban, since that's irrelevant to the 'religious basis' that you feel inappropriately frames the anti-abortion sentiment in the
USA). And I grew up smack-dab in the middle of the types of religious sects that are mostly behind the anti-abortion sentiments in the USA - Catholics, evangelical Christians, and various flavors and versions thereof or close. Not only that, but I have seen zero evidence that there is any percentage lacking of
women in the anti-abortion crowd.
Many people say this as a cheap shot, since the issue at hand (abortion) is obviously an act that only a woman can take, and therefore, the prohibition mostly directly affects the acts/behavior of the woman since the abortion is performed on her only. Truthfully, it's not very rational to claim that in order to participate in the making of a law, one HAS to be a party specifically affected by that law. We are all quite comfortable with many laws that will never affect us personally. We may all have an opinion, for example, about taxation of billionaires.
(But, if you feel this angle of the thing truly is important, do keep in mind the large numbers of anti-abortion women who exist, as well. I would go as far as to say that if you somehow could 'know' the entire population of people with anti-abortion sentiment, you would NOT find that it was loaded with men...and that finding would destroy this argument).
That has nothing to do with the blame ascribed to the parties - it just means we can't give the man an abortion, so it's a moot point.
I'm just calling out that it's quite possible for people to believe abortion is wrong in the same way they believe murder is wrong. We could come up with 100 different speculations or explanations for WHY those people believe it is wrong, but it seems to me you can't be very successful undermining the basis for one without equally undermining the basis of the other. If you feel there is some great precedent for murder being wrong that transcends religion, we could just switch to any number of other things - the result is about the same.
Each gender feels "put upon" when it comes to crimes that seem to "target" just that gender - either by definition (abortion), or by enforcement (domestic violence, where women actually commit the majority of domestic violence, but men incur most of the enforcement).
The reality is, just because the
only possible enforcement of abortion prohibition happens to be limited to women (obviously), that doesn't make it unfair - it just means a man can't have the abortion.
Of course I know you are not a violent person who wants to kill babies.
Either way this has been a good discussion and I give us all kudos for being capable of discussing it - not just yelling.
