Why can't I postpone anything?

[prabha_friend]

Especially in personal decisions but exactly opposite on official tasks

 

[prabha_friend]

Let me share you a scenario:
There is a girl in my office visiting a dermatologist for her ailments. I can wait upto morning to ask her the doctor's details but cannot control (It's 10:10 in the night). Anyways, I am not gonna visit the doctor now and she is not gonna refuse to share the number if I ask in the morning. But I cannot wait. Why? What this condition is called. How to come out of this unnecessary urge.

 

[The_Doc_Man]

Let me share you a scenario:
There is a girl in my office visiting a dermatologist for her ailments. I can wait upto morning to ask her the doctor's details but cannot control (It's 10:10 in the night). Anyways, I am not gonna visit the doctor now and she is not gonna refuse to share the number if I ask in the morning. But I cannot wait. Why? What this condition is called. How to come out of this unnecessary urge.

From the way you described this, it is POSSIBLE to interpret this as a problem that should be kept personal. And maybe I don't want an explanation with more details in the first place.

If this IS actually innocent, you have chosen a strange and misleading description.

 

[Isaac]

@prabha_friend

First I want to say I appreciate your posts quite a bit more than you probably know. You ask interesting "why?" questions that (although I don't always understand them, but often I do) prompt me to think deeply for a few moments about the big questions of life.

I think this is a mixture of:

• part of our fallen human nature, wherein Satan's influence over mankind has twisted the otherwise-wise ways of thinking that God intended
• we usually need a program of self improvement (of some kind, pick yours) to help us "switch" these clearly reversed priorities
• too much listening to our emotions, rather than the rational part of our brain - emotions + physical urges. Learning to quiet the urges & emotions, and prioritize the rational thought, is a long (but satisfying) process that we must embark on, each in his/her way, in this life, as early as possible

I know exactly what you mean! I instinctively RUSH things that require PAUSE.....and I instinctively PAUSE things that are actually URGENT.

Like my wife says something that angers me. I ought to wait, but I rush to answer. Later, there is a book or some media that can help me become a better person - it's actually urgent, but I pause/delay/procrastinate. Everything opposite!

Here are a few interesting other "opposites" I have noticed in life:

• In modern society, USA at least, quite a few people have popularized the idea of "my kid is my TOP prioritiy". Especially from women, but I'd say it affects many people from both genders. What should be first (relationship-wise), is your Spouse - after that, your children. There are two ironies about this:
  • 1--If you put your spouse last, your marriage falls apart, as we see everywhere (often). What happens? What happens next is, oddly, the LAST THING the children wanted! What they want more than anything, know it or not, is for Dad and Mom to stay together. By putting them first, you put them last.
  • 2--You most often hear this said the most assertively in Divorces which are billed as 'friendly'. I.E. yes, we're getting divorced, but our kids come first, so we are going to friendly co-parent them. If only they could hear from their kids prior to putting their spouse last.....
• Mental health quandaries, like:
  • Addictions - what the person most needs is interaction with other recovering people, but addiction tends to make people frightened of human interaction, which is just what the addiction wants to perpetuate itself
  • Some of the people with SMI's are brilliant - many, actually

 

[Cotswold]

@Prabba_friend
Don't you mean that you can always find time for something that you shouldn't be doing?