Dear God, This is not Fair!

[prabha_friend]

My cousin just now returned from Iffley, Oxford, UK. It seems he's not enjoying it. Do people really don't like such a scenic town! I am longing for it but no opportunities for me. He is not liking it but his stay extended for another 8 months. He is telling that he may skip it. Not Fair!

I am not jealous of him but just wondering what in a world a person may need! Good country, Good People, Beer, Climate, Chocolate Factories, Sceneries and most of all technical advancement and at last Good Money too...

Which decision is right? Putting Money at last like I do or as he says "I am going there only for Money". Is Life at Iffley really that bad? Not only Iffley "For any other foreign life" in general.

 

[prabha_friend]

Is that true? That he is telling that 'The Wow factor will fade in a Month'

 

[The_Doc_Man]

You are exhibiting the "other man's grass is always greener" syndrome, a form of envy regarding someone else's apparent good fortune. What you fail to realize is how much the other guy had to shovel in the (excuse me, I meant fertilizer) to make that grass so green. For all you know, that lucky guy is standing ankle deep in piles of but all you see is the green grass of his pasture.

Life is ALWAYS a sequence of choices, some of which can be easy. But many more are difficult. What you see from the outside does not clarify the struggle to achieve at a certain level. When you engage in this kind of thinking, you are failing to see the trees while you rejoice in the forest. But remember this - even the most beautiful forest has some really UGLY trees in it.

Which decision is right?

The one that finds balance between comfort and effort.

 

[prabha_friend]

When I stepped in Mumbai before a decade I felt like 'This is the place I deserve. But has to come out of it for some personal reasons like accidents and all'. My question is why still young guys like my cousin are still falling for silly pleasures like nostalgia and homesickness.

 

[Pat Hartman]

My question is why still young guys like my cousin are still falling for silly pleasures like nostalgia and homesickness.

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[The_Doc_Man]

My question is why still young guys like my cousin are still falling for silly pleasures like nostalgia and homesickness.

Some psychologists have studied questions like this. The shortest answer I can give is that people become accustomed to certain conditions and surroundings, and find changes of those conditions and surroundings to be unpleasant or even jarring. Some people really don't like change in their lives. Other people thrive on it.

Top life stressors are things like

• marriage/divorce
• birth of a baby
• change of employment
• death of a loved one or really close friend
• moving to a new house

Nostalgia and homesickness are both remnants of change-related stress. There is nothing silly about stress. It will kill you.

 

[Isaac]

My cousin just now returned from Iffley, Oxford, UK. It seems he's not enjoying it. Do people really don't like such a scenic town! I am longing for it but no opportunities for me. He is not liking it but his stay extended for another 8 months. He is telling that he may skip it. Not Fair!

I am not jealous of him but just wondering what in a world a person may need! Good country, Good People, Beer, Climate, Chocolate Factories, Sceneries and most of all technical advancement and at last Good Money too...

Which decision is right? Putting Money at last like I do or as he says "I am going there only for Money". Is Life at Iffley really that bad? Not only Iffley "For any other foreign life" in general.

I absolutely loved my visit to Oxford. Way too many college students to move around but it was a beautiful place nonetheless. But I can see what he means about the initial excitement could fade it depends on what you're carrying around with you inside your heart. No matter where you go, there you'll be

 

[Isaac]

When I stepped in Mumbai before a decade I felt like 'This is the place I deserve. But has to come out of it for some personal reasons like accidents and all'. My question is why still young guys like my cousin are still falling for silly pleasures like nostalgia and homesickness.

I find nostalgia to be one of the most interesting psychological conditions. I experience it in spades. What's funny is I even remember bad times as if they were good. This has happened to me for years every time I move I miss the last place I was at even though when I was there I didn't particularly like it. Extremely fascinating in my opinion

 

[Cotswold]

IIfley is just a part of Oxford.
Oxford is Ok, pleasant to wander around. Our youngest lived there for a few years. There are loads of places like that in England.
Broadway, Bourton on the Water, Bibury, The Slaughters, Wallingford all close by.
Some actor, Robert Mitchum I think, once said "it doesn't matter where you live" which is one opinion to consider.

Personally, I don't think there is anywhere better than Cumbria and the Lancashire/Yorkshire fells. Or probably some specific areas of Cumbria. Wherever I go in the World, I'll compare it to the Lakes. They are either as good or they are not. We think we've seen that best of the Lakes before the designer-walkers and the Covid-Brigade were told about it and ruined it. Take a walk up Haystacks, Catbells, the Ennerdale Water circuit and on to Black Sail, or Ullswater. All good on a sunny day but living in the area, with the weather, maybe not suitable for many.

Back in the day I'd have company cars that were replaced within a couple of years, or nearly 40,000 miles. I had the opinion that a new car lasted a fortnight. After that it was just the car on the drive again. In fact maybe the choosing and anticipation of it was the bit that lasted longest?
Some say choosing and planning a holiday are better than the holiday. Maybe because they may not be quite as good as you imagine. We were in Thailand and once went to the so called 'James Bond island' also in Thailand. It took ages to get there and was a bit underwhelming. Right.....is that it? sort of thought came to mind.

Years ago ICI had various factories in Africa and staff were offered the chance to travel there to inspect the factory and processes and report back. Which many jumped at. It was three weeks away and a bit of admin. Nobody did it for long. After a couple of years when the time came around again they got to thinking about the flights, train rides, then the ten hour drive in Land Rovers and trucks along terrible roads, the smells and accommodation. Next came the excuses about just why they couldn't go again. The novelty somehow wore off, which was why the opportunity had a high staff turnover.

Places, like life, are what you make them. Just do the best you can because this isn't a rehearsal.