Best help for depression

[ColinEssex]

Brilliant. Good laugh

Shame the narrator couldn't speak English, obviously not his first language.

Col

 

[The_Doc_Man]

Colin, to clarify...

Here, we read or see on TV that almost all Americans have some kind of therapy as the norm. In the UK, therapy (psychiatric or psychology) is often treated as a weakness or failure.

I would say that your TV image of Americans with regard to therapy is skewed. Not all of us go to therapists. But there was a time when I did.

When I was in that terrible depression, I found a therapist who could help me sort out my feelings so as to know which ones were legitimate and which ones were not justified. During that time, I had a lot of confusion and my mind was often awhirl with really extraneous thoughts that somehow just clouded my whole thinking process. The therapist helped me to focus on what needed to be done and what could wait for a more convenient time. He helped me recognize that I was reverse-projecting Mom's issues onto myself. Perhaps I had a bit too much compassion, a bit too much of trying to understand what was happening to her and why.

It was during that time that I finally gave up on deity-based religions - though there were some nuggets in some Buddhist variants. Sometimes, asking "WHY" is totally wrong because it is an open-ended question that in such cases admits of no deep philosophical answer. Sometimes you need the simple answer... Why was it happening? Because she got sick. Why did she get sick? Something in her body chemistry. After that, any more "WHY" questions is like a petulant four-year-old objecting to being punished.

My therapist helped me get through that torrent of emotions by steering me clear of the downward unending spiral questions. When I finally DID come up for air, I was able to go on with my life again. So yes, I did have a therapist. But no, not every American has a regular therapist on call.

 

[ColinEssex]

The other main difference between the British soldiers and the American soldiers is that American soldiers have to be able to sing.
They seem to spend a lot of time jogging round in a group of about 12 but have to sing some strange chant.

The British of course rely on stealth and quiet which could explain why so many Yanks are killed in battle - too much noise and singing.

Doc, it's not just my opinion, it's a general opinion of Americans by the Brits.

Col

 

[ColinEssex]

I've noticed in American war type films some other essential qualities you need to be a US soldier.

a) you have to say ' son of a bitch' a lot. Why? I have no idea.

b) you have to say 'god damn' a lot.

c) you have to spit a lot.

d) you need to be able to chew on a matchstick whilst doing other things without choking on the matchstick. This of course makes spitting somewhat tricky whilst having a half chewed matchstick poking out your mouth and singing at the same time.

I'm guessing here as I've no evidence, the compulsory chewing of chewing gum is also performed as we know all Americans chew gum all the time for some reason.

I think all in all, it's pretty awkward being a US soldier with lots to remember.

Col

 

[AccessBlaster]

I have never watched an episode of Wallace & Gromit and thought to myself, UK citizens are all made of clay.

 

[ColinEssex]

I have never watched an episode of Wallace & Gromit and thought to myself, UK citizens are all made of clay.

Well, we do eat a lot of cheese. You have to wonder.

Col

 

[The_Doc_Man]

Well, we do eat a lot of cheese

I knew there was something about you folks that was sensible.

But then again, Colin, there HAVE been times when your comments have been pretty cheesy.

 

[HugeThing]

How can you help a depressed friend? My friend is always presenting these negative outlooks in life and I feel that these are signs of depression. I am afraid that he might do something harmful to himself.

Doctor should help him for sure, all you should do - stay with him. Specialist should carry him in this way

 

[Jon]

If they don't want to go to a doctor, regular physical exercise and cognitive based therapy. You might consider buying them the book, "Feeling Good."

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[harpygaggle]

Thank you @Jon and @HugeThing for your suggestions. I will suggest that he should see a professional since depression is not a joke. There are a lot of suicides caused by depression. And I will check on that book @Jon, it seems good not only to those who are depressed.

By the way, is eating your "happy food" helps?

 

[Jon]

Food is only a temporary solution, for the moment.

 

[KerryBolt192]

If you are close enough to your friend, you should know their hobbies and there can actually be a lot of choices about how to help them.

 

[Harrybrigham]

What's the difference between primary and secondary depression?

Anyway, I also sent him this article hoping he can get some positive things here.

I think that he means endogenous or exogenous depression.

 

[vasilievnaaaa]

healthy sleep and a good movie will help you

 

[MonkPlusTerraria]

healthy sleep and a good movie will help you

or just listening ASMR content or classical music.

Personally, I like stuff from Lucas King. Especially his covers and own songs in the universe of Star Wars.

I like his own interpretation of the Heroic Version of Imperial march.
Recommend you to listen to it :

 

[robertopupka]

Hi, I think that the best way to get rid of depression is communication, whether you are handsome or not, you can communicate both live and online, either way you will forget about your problems.Every day I publish posts on Instagram,i like Instagram followers from Cloutsy ordered likes raise the rating of posts. Later I will add regular readers to the account. Thus, I am trying to increase the popularity of the account. Seeing "how good I am", hopefully ordinary subscribers will join me.

 

[The_Doc_Man]

Hi, I think that the best way to get rid of depression is communication, whether you are handsome or not, you can communicate both live and online, either way you will forget about your problems

If your circumstances allow it, you are correct. However, I was in a limited communication situation for a while because my conversations could not break out of the cycle of talking about my mother's decline. I was bad company and as a result, nobody would talk to me for very long. Which is also why I didn't have a regular lady friend at the time. I was a TERRIBLE date. You can be as intelligent and articulate as you like but if your mind is trapped in a spiral, you often chase away potential friends. If you haven't been there, you don't appreciate that aspect of it all.

 

[Isaac]

Hi, I think that the best way to get rid of depression is communication, whether you are handsome or not, you can communicate both live and online, either way you will forget about your problems.Every day I publish posts on Instagram,i like Instagram followers from Cloutsy ordered likes raise the rating of posts. Later I will add regular readers to the account. Thus, I am trying to increase the popularity of the account. Seeing "how good I am", hopefully ordinary subscribers will join me.

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[Cindy Fit]

¿Cómo puedes ayudar a un amigo deprimido? Mi amigo siempre presenta estas perspectivas negativas en la vida y siento que estos son signos de depresión. Tengo miedo de que pueda hacer algo dañino para sí mismo.

Hola, una forma de ayudar es sugerirle que vaya a un terapeuta, que lo pueda ayudar de manera profesional. Otra forma es sugerirle alguna actividad que lo motive, unirse a nuevos grupos; es un proceso en el que tiene que hacer su parte para salir de ese estado. Me ayudaron varias cosas, como ir a terapia (eso fue lo primero), apuntarme a un deporte que me gusta, así como también, leer libros de autoayuda y sanación . Lo bueno es que te tiene a ti, como su amigo.

 

[The_Doc_Man]

First, @petrderbikov - Hello and welcome to the forum, since that was your first post.

Second, when I was seriously depressed during my mother's long-term terminal illness, I took on ... not reading, but WRITING as a hobby. It allowed me to dump my emotions on paper. Somehow, that act - a way of talking about how I felt even though the feelings were disguised as part of a novel - helped me to cope with my feelings.