G, my statement was made dispassionately in the same sense that any scientist would prefer - to make no statement that presumes something about the question being considered. And it is a question that is worth answering definitively.
I sense that you are offended with me more easily now after my comment about cleft palates in a complex context, and as I recall I apologized unconditionally for that one. But I am not going to walk around looking over my shoulder to see whom I might accidentally offend next. To me, "political correctness" and the culture of calling down EVERY POSSIBLE OFFENSE is merely trying to cancel ME because I don't think like YOU do. And for that, I am deeply offended because YOU are implicitly being dismissive of my own worth.
If I added my passion in the context of the statement to which you objected, I would state clearly and without hesitation that having LOVING parents, whatever else they might be, is the most important thing in a child's life. I put no other qualifiers on the parents than that they must be loving and caring with regard to their child's well-being.
I have a gay step-daughter who is an absolutely WONDERFUL person; hard-working, honest, responsible, gainfully employed, married, intelligent, ... I could go on but I hope you get the point. I am NOT anti-gay at all. Many of my best friends in college WERE gay. Once we established everyone's preferences, we had no issues. In fact, my best friend during my bachelor's degree years was also my bridge partner, who was Lesbian. We both lusted after Amy Irving at the time.
My occasional dispassionate stance is because I try not to muddy my own question by injecting a presupposition of the answer. And the question of whether having two gay parents or no parents at all is better DESERVES to be settled. Because if my presupposition IS correct, a lot of religious folks who are anti-gay need to have their noses rubbed into something. But it will take a dispassionate study to be able to dig up the manure that SHOULD be rubbed in their faces for having an anti-gay stance.
Does that help you understand that I just don't think quite the way you do? And if my left-handed way of thinking seems odd, maybe you just don't recognize that sometimes I am looking at the forest; sometimes I am contemplating the trees. There is a LOT of sub-text in what I do and how I think. Forgive me if I choose not to ALWAYS share my stream of chaos that some people call consciousness. (I actually make no claims either way.)
