Ladies - Need your help please? Guys dont laugh at me! lol

RichardP1978

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Ladies, I need some advice, and I hope that this does not breach any rules here.

I got married earlier in the year, and as its traditional, within my family, for the husband to buy his wife some nice lingerie for Christmas, I would like to follow that tradition on.

Now my question is, do I go sensible every day stuff, or do I go for that something a bit special, its not the money that is the worry, its the if I get it wrong. Now, I know what kind of stuff she likes that is special and what is not, but could I call upon how you would feel if you recieved a 'boring' set of lingerie, and something that is clearly special, would you feel special as a result?
 
You do realise Richard that her reaction will depend almost entirely on the mood she is in when she opens the present, so you might as well do as Rich suggests.

Brian
 
I'm not a lady but I'll give you some advice. Redirect your question to men who have attempted this task and failed. Plenty of advice there. :D
 
OK, I'll venture an answer here. If you know what kind of stuff she likes that is special and what kind of stuff she likes that is sensible you shouldn't have any problems picking something out. Since Christmas is a once-a-year thing and you are newly married, I would go for the special. You'll have plenty of time in later years to buy granny panties. :D

Seriously though, Rich's advice is pretty good, given that you said you know what style she would like. Pick out something nice that you like that you think she will like and I'm sure you can't go wrong.
 
MrsGorilla said:
Pick out something nice that you like that you think she will like and I'm sure you can't go wrong.

Yeah right :rolleyes: :p
 
cover your bets

I've been married 21 years. One thing I have learned is to cover my bets. Buy whatever you think she will like for lingerie...assume she may not like it and have a backup. Usually something in a diamond like a diamond necklace, ear ring, etc. .

Good luck.
 
Wow. You guys must have a bunch of picky wives. I'm usually happy with whatever I get, provided it isn't too tacky. :p
 
also I dont know if you have kids Richard, but you might want to think about who will be watching when she opens the gift. if it is just the two of you great more power, but if you are going to have kids parents other family around you might want to have a secondary gift that is family friendly and able to be opened in company. then tell her she has another gift waiting for her when you two are alone so she doesnt get upset when she opens a bag of socks, shirts etc wehen she was expecting lingerie
 
And make sure it's something she will be comfortable in. If it itches to wear, I don't think you'll get much enjoyment out of it either.
 
Overheard today...

Working on a PC in a cubicle. Over the wall floats this conversation:

Woman 1: When did you get that ring?

Woman 2: Last week. My husband gave it to me.

Woman 3: Wow, that is some diamond. Was it your anniversary?

Woman 2. No.

Woman 1: Your birthday?

Woman 2: No.

Women 1 and 3 together: !!! Why did he give it to you?

Woman 2: He said it was 'just because'...but you see how big it is on my finger? What does he think; that I have fat fingers?!


:eek: That was when I fell out of the chair. No wonder guys want advice on what women want! :D

Sean
 
Sean O'Halloran said:
but you see how big it is on my finger? What does he think; that I have fat fingers?!

Hasn't she ever heard of sizing? :p
 
Ring

I work with a young guy in his early twenties. He told me his girl friend wants him to give her a ring. I told him that's OK, pick up the phone and give her a call.:D
 
LOL, thanks for the words guys, and MrsGorilla, you sound like fun! lol

Special it is then, I dont really do the tacky stuff. Yes it does get me going, but I wouldnt want to do that as a gift, so something nice it is for her. I just hope I can get some time away from her in the build up to Christmas to get it sorted.

Oh KalelG, it would be opened up just the two of us.

Shes done well the last few months at losing some weight, and she said the other night that she didnt have much nice stuff that fitted now. Major hint I know, and I do like seeing her in nice lingerie, especially when we go out as it does make her feel special, which of course she is.

I just have to set a budget and keep to it. lol.
 
KalelGmoon said:
...then tell her she has another gift waiting for her when you two are alone so she doesnt get upset when she opens a bag of socks, shirts etc wehen she was expecting lingerie

I'm trying to imagine what on earth you could say to a woman so that she wouldn't be upset with getting a bag o' socks for her Christmas present.

Of course I must point out that last Christmas the boyfriend did, in fact, give me a bag of socks. But I wasn't upset because I had already opened the jewelry, and he meant it as a thoughtful gift because he knows I have toesicles all winter. So he bought every style of toesock in the store.

He means well.

Oh, the original question - there's a difference between lingerie and underpants. For a special occasion, you want to go with the former.
 
and she said the other night that she didnt have much nice stuff that fitted now

RichardP, that was not merely a major hint, it was a signal flare fired at close range. Perhaps even a parachute flare.

Some advice. Part 1 - go to a store (such as Victoria's Secret, but any other reasonable place would do.) Explain your question to a female clerk. Now, here is the tricky part. You want something sexy but not tacky. You want something for which she could use the line, "Wait a moment while I slip into something more comfortable." And therefore, it would have to be "more comfortable" than whatever else she might have been wearing.

Part 2 - If you have choices, ask the question of an older (slightly more mature) clerk - not a granny type but not someone who is clearly a holiday-seasonal temp worker, either. You want someone who has had a chance to know her product line.

Part 3 - If she likes what you got, offer to get her a gift certificate for that store and let her choose some other things on her own. The fact that you went shopping will win tons of points, even if you only bought one thing, as long as you make it clear that you were merely "scouting the territory."

One last bit of advice: You would know already if you and she are in this category, so I won't elaborate. If it involves leather, metal, or rubber, don't look for it in the major department stores - and if it does fall into that category, DEFINITELY don't present the gift in public!
 
DocMan, your last advice I like the sound of, and I know that it will be some time yet before I get her to that stage! lol :rolleyes:

I bought her the gifts last night, some nice lingerie, which I spent about 30 minutes in one shop picking out, and had the help of a very helpful assistant. Its all wrapped up.

I did buy her some jewelry as well as the get out of jail card, but I know the box that the jewelry comes in will probably be the bit she likes the most as its like a pink suede material.
 
LOL Brian, I couldnt find any!

Perhaps some reserach in to valentines is needed soon...........
 

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