Pauldohert
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I am exposing them to different cultural concepts of religion. What was your question?
Do you expose them to the concept of God at home? Or just the tooth fairy?
I am exposing them to different cultural concepts of religion. What was your question?
Well since you claim to be for real, and not just making a joke here, I will respond. But really, you must be joking. Nothing happened that made me feel that way. There is just no evidence that there is or ever has been a god. As far as the scriptures, there is nothing to indicate which holy book is more true than any other holy book. Since they all contradict eachother and themselves, it is a futile endeavor to try to adhere to one or the other anyway.
There is still time for what?
There are well documented pros of being self-actualized (see Maslow's hierarchy). Religious people are more likely to be self-actualized than non-religious people, regardless of religious affiliation (again, see Maslow). Religious people are generally just happier deep down.
We can also assume that being religious means attending services on a regular basis (that doesn't mean you have to be "religious" to attend services). Before, during, and after these services, frequently relationships deepen between worshippers, just because they're near each other, have something in common, and may find they have more in common. We Christians call this behavior fellowshipping and it is an important part of being a Christian. These relationships can also help to satisfy lower level needs (again, see Maslow), increasing the overall level of happiness, fulfillment, etc. I would consider this a second, considerable pro, per your request.
Also, something that I wouldn't expect a non-believer to understand is the relationship with God that is in question here. To have a deep belief in a supreme being and a faith in said being requires a relationship of a type. I've found, in my personal life, that this is a relationship that is more enduring and satisfying that all the other relationships (which are also great). You may say (hopefully only in your mind) that it is all in my mind/the mind of the "believer". That is a fair thing for you to question (hopefully discretely). And your supposition may even be true, though I don't believe so. But if your supposition is true, it still doesn't impact the perceived happiness I am receiving from this (virtual?) relationship. Your lack of belief cannot take it away from me, and I still enjoy the pros. This enduring faith and relationship is a third pro, per your request.
Also, living by a code of ethics, whether handed down by a God on a mountain to a bearded man, like the 10 commandments, or not, provides a more fulfilling life than having no moral or ethical compass. Again, I'm not saying that you have to be religious to have a moral code nor that all religious people follow their own code (yes, we are hypocrites too, in addition to our other sins), it just seems to go with the territory with religious people. Many people who are "religious" might not otherwise have a set of moral suggestions to guide their life. I'd say that the law and order in society and the order in our personal lives is another real pro, per your request.
I have a real job and cannot spend the time to articulate the hundreds of other advantages. I'd love to discuss them with you in person, if you like.
Are there cons to religion? Yes. Seems everybody here is familiar with them and many are more than willing to comment on them, and I can't and don't want to refute them. It seems to me that many of those cons are the result of bad people, not a bad/non-existing God.
It is human nature to have morals.
This is simply not true. In fact, there is no research that shows that religious people are any happier or any more satistfied with their lives than non-religious people.
You are trying to argue that there is some deeper level of satistfaction available only to those who believe in god. I just don't think that is true.
Of course my lack of belief doesn't impact your perceived hapiness.
It is human nature to have morals. There is also no research indicating that religious people are any more moral than non-religious people.
In fact, aren't the majority of prisoners religious?
The cons are a result of the fact that religious conviction can be taken advantage of and used for evil.
You really believe this statement? Think back to when you children were say are 2 to 4 years old. When they broke something and you asked them if they did it and they told you no. When you came home from a friends house and they had taken a toy home with them that belonged to your friends child. When they throw a fit cause they can't have there way or bite, scratch, punch a kid cause the kid did not give them what they wanted. If it was in their human nature to have morals then why do they lie, without being taught? Steal, without being taught to? Be selfish and even violent, without being taught to be? I think little kids exhibit what we as humans really are until be are taught to be civil, show respect, and have morals.
We were meant to live forever....
Who was that by the way?
You are implying that all small children lie from the start to avoid punishment, are violent to meet their needs/wants. I have raised 4 children and know from experience that is totally false. Small children emulate their peers and their parents. If they lie to avoid punishment, then someone is meting out the wrong kind of punishment, or they have witnessed it in others. None of my 4 children were raised in "church". And mysteriously, they all know it is wrong to steal, lie, punch the neighbor's children, etc. If I had raised them in "church", what difference would it have made? Well, for one thing, we'd be many thousands of dollars poorer, since all churches insist you give them part of your income. Some more than others. Fellowship? Here's your fellowship:
"He came from a solid, loving home with encouraging Support , a moral upbringing and Christian teaching from the time he could walk. He was an obedient child, a dedicated student, and a team player on the Oak Harbor High School football team" - Serial Killer Robert L. Yates, Jr.
"Jeffery Dahmer was a son of a Fundamentalist-creationist-second wife-abuser."
"Hitler was a Roman Catholic alter Boy and wrote of wanting to be a Catholic priest."
"Stalin went to college to be a Protestant Christian minister."
"The 195 pound, 5-foot-11 college educated, family man in Park City, Kansas was president of the Lutheran church he attended for 30 years and a Boy Scout leader." BTK Killer Denis Rader
"He read the Bible at work and tried to save others by continually talking about church and the savior. He went door to door for a Pentecostal church and got angry when people closed their doors on him. According to his second wife, he "would sit at night watching TV with an open Bible in his lap (and) would frequently cry after, or during, the church service." Gary Leon Ridgway - the Green River Killer
What kind of fellowship is being taught at these churches?
You are implying that all small children lie from the start to avoid punishment, are violent to meet their needs/wants. I have raised 4 children and know from experience that is totally false. Small children emulate their peers and their parents. If they lie to avoid punishment, then someone is meting out the wrong kind of punishment, or they have witnessed it in others. None of my 4 children were raised in "church". And mysteriously, they all know it is wrong to steal, lie, punch the neighbor's children, etc. If I had raised them in "church", what difference would it have made? Well, for one thing, we'd be many thousands of dollars poorer, since all churches insist you give them part of your income. Some more than others. Fellowship? Here's your fellowship:
"He came from a solid, loving home with encouraging Support , a moral upbringing and Christian teaching from the time he could walk. He was an obedient child, a dedicated student, and a team player on the Oak Harbor High School football team" - Serial Killer Robert L. Yates, Jr.
"Jeffery Dahmer was a son of a Fundamentalist-creationist-second wife-abuser."
"Hitler was a Roman Catholic alter Boy and wrote of wanting to be a Catholic priest."
"Stalin went to college to be a Protestant Christian minister."
"The 195 pound, 5-foot-11 college educated, family man in Park City, Kansas was president of the Lutheran church he attended for 30 years and a Boy Scout leader." BTK Killer Denis Rader
"He read the Bible at work and tried to save others by continually talking about church and the savior. He went door to door for a Pentecostal church and got angry when people closed their doors on him. According to his second wife, he "would sit at night watching TV with an open Bible in his lap (and) would frequently cry after, or during, the church service." Gary Leon Ridgway - the Green River Killer
What kind of fellowship is being taught at these churches?
Shane, you surprise me! nearly all the young children I know - My children, grandchildren, friend's children etc have been honest to point of embarrasment - saying what they tink without worrying about upsetting someone and have had an innocence that made them admit what they had wrong. In my experience it is heavy handed punishment that teaches children to lie to avoid it.You really believe this statement? Think back to when you children were say are 2 to 4 years old. When they broke something and you asked them if they did it and they told you no. When you came home from a friends house and they had taken a toy home with them that belonged to your friends child. When they throw a fit cause they can't have there way or bite, scratch, punch a kid cause the kid did not give them what they wanted. If it was in their human nature to have morals then why do they lie, without being taught? Steal, without being taught to? Be selfish and even violent, without being taught to be? I think little kids exhibit what we as humans really are until be are taught to be civil, show respect, and have morals.
Begging the question. I think you need to provide more evidence for this assertionThere are well documented pros of being self-actualized (see Maslow's hierarchy). Religious people are more likely to be self-actualized than non-religious people, regardless of religious affiliation (again, see Maslow). Religious people are generally just happier deep down.
I agree with the benefits of socialising but this is not exclusive to Christians or to other religious groups.We can also assume that being religious means attending services on a regular basis (that doesn't mean you have to be "religious" to attend services). Before, during, and after these services, frequently relationships deepen between worshippers, just because they're near each other, have something in common, and may find they have more in common. We Christians call this behavior fellowshipping and it is an important part of being a Christian. These relationships can also help to satisfy lower level needs (again, see Maslow), increasing the overall level of happiness, fulfillment, etc. I would consider this a second, considerable pro, per your request.
I am afraid I can't have a meaningful relationship with something I regard as imaginary. I do not doubt the happiness you get from your belief but that does not work for me anymore than getting comfort from a whisky bottle would.Also, something that I wouldn't expect a non-believer to understand is the relationship with God that is in question here. To have a deep belief in a supreme being and a faith in said being requires a relationship of a type. I've found, in my personal life, that this is a relationship that is more enduring and satisfying that all the other relationships (which are also great). You may say (hopefully only in your mind) that it is all in my mind/the mind of the "believer". That is a fair thing for you to question (hopefully discretely). And your supposition may even be true, though I don't believe so. But if your supposition is true, it still doesn't impact the perceived happiness I am receiving from this (virtual?) relationship. Your lack of belief cannot take it away from me, and I still enjoy the pros. This enduring faith and relationship is a third pro, per your request.
I do not regard myself as being amoral and I certainly know the difference between right and wrong. I believe that any stable society has to have its own moral code or it will not be stable.Also, living by a code of ethics, whether handed down by a God on a mountain to a bearded man, like the 10 commandments, or not, provides a more fulfilling life than having no moral or ethical compass. Again, I'm not saying that you have to be religious to have a moral code nor that all religious people follow their own code (yes, we are hypocrites too, in addition to our other sins), it just seems to go with the territory with religious people. Many people who are "religious" might not otherwise have a set of moral suggestions to guide their life. I'd say that the law and order in society and the order in our personal lives is another real pro, per your request.
Unfortunately not possible unless you come to the UKI have a real job and cannot spend the time to articulate the hundreds of other advantages. I'd love to discuss them with you in person, if you like.
I have to agree with you on this.Are there cons to religion? Yes. Seems everybody here is familiar with them and many are more than willing to comment on them, and I can't and don't want to refute them. It seems to me that many of those cons are the result of bad people, not a bad/non-existing God.
Shane, you surprise me! nearly all the young children I know - My children, grandchildren, friend's children etc have been honest to point of embarrasment - saying what they tink without worrying about upsetting someone and have had an innocence that made them admit what they had wrong. In my experience it is heavy handed punishment that teaches children to lie to avoid it.
Perfect examples of what happens when you stop going to church and abandon the fellowship!
For the reasons I gave in my post. In case you missed it, in my experience children don't lie until they learn there is an advantage in doing so. Can you deny that children don't have a sense of justice. Think how often you hear cries of "Thats not fair". Of course I can't speak for your kids - I have never met them but I am sure they arent as bad as you imply.Why would I surprise you? Have you ever watched Super Nanny? If you watch this show you will see how children come out when they are left to decide what is right or moral.
For the reasons I gave in my post. In case you missed it, in my experience children don't lie until they learn there is an advantage in doing so.
Can you deny that children don't have a sense of justice.
I was replying to a post which suggested that children were born liars. I would dispute that. I think they need to learn the advantages of lying before they do it.Yes. Like, for instance, escaping the consequences of their actions. A punishment doesn't necessarily have to be 'heavy-handed' in order for a child to try and side-step it. It's part of what makes them a self-conscious individual.
Paradoxically a situation may be both fair and unfair depending on your viewpoint. The adult/parental view may well be reasonable but unfair.No. But they don't have it down pat a priori do they? How many times have we heard a child say 'it's not fair' when really it is?
I was replying to a post which suggested that children were born liars. I would dispute that. I think they need to learn the advantages of lying before they do it.
Paradoxically a situation may be both fair and unfair depending on your viewpoint. The adult/parental view may well be reasonable but unfair.
My basic case was that I don't believe children are born immoral (in terms of lying, stealing as Shane seemed to be suggesting). I was making the point thay I consider these are learnt behaviours in an attempt to avoid punishment.I thought you were arguing 'heavy-handedness' as a pre-requisite. I really don't see that as being the case.