How Long You Been Together?

[Uncle Gizmo]

I thought I was old in relation to people that use this forum, I always had the impression that most people here were young. However it appears many of the posters are quite senior. Is it an MS Access thing? that MS access programmers are old? and also managed to stay married in this society where divorce seems to be the norm?

Anyway, in answer to your question I have been married for 25 years, or should I say we! We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary this November (2005) and we stayed in a hotel on Leicester square London, and the ticket office In Leicester square, was also celebrating its 25th anniversary!

I did suggest to my wife that we should try and get some publicity out of the coincidence, but she doesn't like any sort of celebrity, and said I could ring them if I wanted but she would not pose for photos. I thought it would look a bit ridiculous just me in the photo, so I never made the phone call! I suppose I could've gotten a stand-in, but well !!!

 

[emcf]

hmmm....need to find a girl who wants to marry me! most end up running a mile when they realise i am a rugby playing scotsman!

 

[Lister]

Just coming up to my first year of marrage, but we have been together for eleven.

Have to say that this year has been the hardest, I don't know why really but if I could go back I don't think I would have got married. We seemed happy just being together but now it's different and I don't know how but it is.

Strange, hope its just a "thing".

 

[Uncle Gizmo]

>>>> Have to say that this year has been the hardest, I don't know why really but if I could go back I don't think I would have got married.<<<<

LOL!!!
I think we all feel like that sometimes! The most important thing to do is talk! Get some time together, a favorite drinking hole, somewhere where you both feel comfortable and have a good long chat.

What tends to happen when you get married is that you take on a roll of husband or wife, and you expect the other person to adopt their role as well.

Before your marriage there is no such pressure to take on such roles, so the work load, the chores are shared evenly, but when you get married there is definitely a shift to that's your job, that's my job. And in many ways this shift is unfair on the wife.

It is a good idea to have a swap around, have a week or two where you do your partners chores and your partner does yours. It's the same old saying really, walk a mile in their shoes, then you see things from their perspective.

But don't forget, talk, real talk, intimate talk, (no not sexy talk, do that later after the chat) In the case of a man, let the woman talk, and you listen, read the again! LISTEN. And in the case of a woman, talk, don't lecture, don't bait him, don't scold him, just talk, tell him how you feel, where you think things are going wrong, and jointly, together, solve the problems!

 

[pono1]

>>>>It is a good idea...

If none of that works, just spend more time at the pub.

Regards,
Tim

 

[Vassago]

If none of that works, just spend more time at the pub.

Regards,
Tim

Why try the other stuff first...or better yet, why wait until you need to? Just go to the pub and completely avoid all of that nonsense.

 

[Surjer]

1st marriage - 2 years
2nd marriage - 2 years

Currently - Happy LOL

 

[ColinEssex]

22 very happy years

Then I got married

Col

 

[skea]

22 very happy years

Then I got married

Col

Is it possible to apply for bail for such a life-time imprisonment.

 

[MrsGorilla]

We've been together for 9 years, married for 7. Our 8th anniversary will be in May. Happy so far...

 

[NJudson]

Been together for 5 years and married for 2 years. Although it has its ups and downs I'd have to say it keeps getting better. There seemed to be more tension during the first year of marriage (not to mention the year leading up to the wedding ), but our relationship seems more relaxed and comfortable now.

 

[selenau837]

Was married 10 yrs. I had two beautiful girls from it; because I can no longer have children. May not have been the best, but having my two beautiful girls let me know, I was married at the right time in my life. Whether I agree with with fate or not. Things happen for a reason.

Anyways,
Congrats to those still thriving in their marriage. Means fate has smiled on you and your mate. Keep going strong, give those still looking hope.

 

[Ron_dK]

The wife and I are some 28 years together and we got married 13 years ago.
Two years ago, she had major surgery as to remove a cancer tumor , which nearly killed her. Looking back , I can only say that that period during which she recovered and got thru chemotherapy and all, we realized how much we care for another and do the utmost to increase the (emotional) health of our marriage.

 

[lmnop7854]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 years. The nature of the relationship does not make it conducive for us to be married, but we are working on it. Considering that we now have a baby together, it has made us more committed to working on it. All I can say is, relationships are hard - married or otherwise.

Lisa

 

[Bodisathva]

When I was 24, I was fortunate enough to re-meet the girl I fell in love with in 5th grade...we've been married for six and a half years now and I can't imagine it being any other way.

 

[selenau837]

When I was 24, I was fortunate enough to re-meet the girl I fell in love with in 5th grade...we've been married for six and a half years now and I can't imagine it being any other way.

That is wonderful.

 

[Kraj]

The wife and I are some 28 years together and we got married 13 years ago.
Two years ago, she had major surgery as to remove a cancer tumor , which nearly killed her. Looking back , I can only say that that period during which she recovered and got thru chemotherapy and all, we realized how much we care for another and do the utmost to increase the (emotional) health of our marriage.

You know, people always say "you don't know what you have until it's gone" and I think it's true. I think the luckiest people are the ones faced with losing the one they love but don't.

 

[Ron_dK]

You know, people always say "you don't know what you have until it's gone" and I think it's true. I think the luckiest people are the ones faced with losing the one they love but don't.

You're right Kraj. life is ups and downs.
Going thru dark periods adds strength to relationships.

 

[Friday]

You know, people always say "you don't know what you have until it's gone" and I think it's true. I think the luckiest people are the ones faced with losing the one they love but don't.

Kraj, you are right on the money.

 

[Brianwarnock]

Kraj, you are right on the money.

I second that, it's 13 years since my wife's cancer was diagnosed and she was given 3 to 10 years with a probability of 5 to live. We have never been so close and its specially so during her bad times, but the best are when she starts nagging me as I know she's feeling really well

Brian