I Love You

[ColinEssex]

Nobody has broken any rules. Carry on, everyone, and let it go! Namliam has explained what he meant, which I can certainly understand. He was using the literal definition. Colin has a right to his opinion which he is certainly glad to share. There's nothing wrong with his opinion. He didn't use any words to attack anyone specific or even any group at all.

Honestly, I didn't like my marriage either, and I ended it. Not all of them are a bed of roses. Fortunately, I didn't have to feel guilty because she cheated on me and in no way was in a position to not survive on her own. As far as I'm concerned, I'm guilt free for leaving her behind.

I haven't completely given up on the concept, but the actual "being married" thing seems like a waste in today's society. I don't need the government and a piece of paper to tell me who to love.

At last! A moderator with some sense and not carrying a vendetta.

Thanks Vass, although it is still a mystery to me, but so is life.

Col

 

[Brianwarnock]

1 Thessalonians 4:14-17 1 Corinthians 15:51-53

For Brian and others who have lost or are losing loved ones.

Hope it provides a little comfort.

Blade

Thank you for your concern and sympathy. I am not religious and I was not angry for myself as I had had 20 years to prepare. I will not continue this on this thread.

Thanks again

Brian

 

[ColinEssex]

To get back on topic after the derailment by Gizzy.

I have a mate who is single. He is completely unshackled by marriage, he has a good job, nice car, house etc.
He travels when and where he likes and does his own thing.

This is the best bit - if he fancies some "company" (nudge nudge) he rings an escort agency and, well, spends a pleasant evening in good stunning company.

Jealous am I? Too bloody right, why the hell didn't I heed warnings before I got married. I am so angry.

Col

 

[Vassago]

To get back on topic after the derailment by Gizzy.

I have a mate who is single. He is completely unshackled by marriage, he has a good job, nice car, house etc.
He travels when and where he likes and does his own thing.

This is the best bit - if he fancies some "company" (nudge nudge) he rings an escort agency and, well, spends a pleasant evening in good stunning company.

Jealous am I? Too bloody right, why the hell didn't I heed warnings before I got married. I am so angry.

Col

Women have this spell they cast over our minds to blind us from reality.

 

[pbaldy]

Women have this spell they cast over our minds to blind us from reality.

I'm not sure it's our minds they have control over.

 

[Libre]

I don't think that Col or Namliam said anything WRONG per se, but I'm sorry for them that they are that jaded and bitter.
I'm sorry Col, that your life didn't work out the way you imagined it might and that you're in a situation that you find so unpleasant that you fancy that waking up in the morning on this side of the dirt is an unwelcome outcome.
You know, things never stay the same for long. They may seem to, but all of a sudden you may find yourself thinking back long ago - to today - and realize you're thinking of it as "the good old days".
Regardless, very few people (adults at least) entertain the notion that marriage is a "bed of roses". It is what you make it - like life itself. I have a sweet and intense love affair going with my wife of 14 years. We are both fully invested in our intertwined lives - although we are completely different - yet we compliment each other and never (well, hardly) limit each other, make demands, compete for resources, or belittle each other. We are childless and "mature" adults (late 50's, mid 60's) so some of the pressures that most marriages experience are absent in ours. Namliam and Colin Essex know what they know based only on their own experiences - but they don't know everything. If there really is no such thing as true love between people (Namliam) or that marriage could be the worst mistake you'll ever make (Col) then I'm a hopeless romantic, living in a dream world with my lovely wife - whom I can hardly wait to greet later at the gym where we both work out after work - and tell her for the one billionth time how much I love and adore her. I wish everyone could be as happy as we are, but I know that's not reality. Still - you pay your money and take your chances in this life - the only alternative is to do nothing at all which sounds worse than not living at all.