Notes From A Thoughtful Husband

[ColinEssex]

Ok... When cupcake comes in, out of the blue, I'm going to ask her if she's doing something different with her hair and say how nice it looks... Stay tuned...

Kens last post was at 8:13pm (UK time) last night. . . . . . . . . .nothing since then. . . . . . .. oh dear I think Cupcake may have reacted how we predicted. . . . . . . Ken obviously hasn't got a PC in the shed

Col

 

[Rich]

. Ken obviously hasn't got a PC in the shed

Col

or he's nursing two black eyes

 

[KenHigg]

Whew... I kinda cheated. This am as she was drying her hair I ask was she doing something new with her hair. She said 'Sweetheart - I'm still fixing it.', she then paused an said 'Why'. I said 'I don't know, I thought it looked different and it looked nice... So it kinda died there until I got my 'have a good day' kiss when I again teased her by looking curiously and with a silly grin, at her hair - but saying nothing. She smiled and said 'Sweetheart, I really haven't done anything different but thanks anyway'.

I'm really not sure what the net result of this experiment is... I'm going to guess women simply like a little attention now & then, however feeble the attempt. I wonder how many times in the last hour she's wondered why I mentioned her hair... :0

 

[Len Boorman]

Whew... I kinda cheated.

So you did listen to at least some of the advice and learnt a valuable lesson.

Welcome to the survival squad

L

 

[KenHigg]

So you did listen to at least some of the advice and learnt a valuable lesson.

Welcome to the survival squad

L

I had it on the tip of my tongue yesterday several times and just couldn't bring my self to ask her...

Here's another one - When I ask her what I should wear she's says "Honey, I don't care'. Then after I take a shirt off the hanger she rolls her eyes...

 

[Len Boorman]

Here's another one - When I ask her what I should wear she's says "Honey, I don't care'. Then after I take a shirt off the hanger she rolls her eyes...

You mean you were surprised

 

[KenHigg]

You mean you were surprised

I'm thinking of serializing my clothes and the posting a chart in the closet indicating which shirts go with which pants...

 

[Len Boorman]

Here begineth the final lesson

Training has begun.

Abandon hope and comply to the designated lifestyle that has been decreed


Have you watch Star Trek Voyager and Next generation.


Does the Borg lifestyle offer any message

L

 

[Len Boorman]

Not many of the brave posters from yesterday poking there heads over the parapet this morning.

Maybe some started some very ill advised conversations last night and have not been discharged for Hospital yet

L

 

[KenHigg]

Hum... I did change the oil in her car yesterday... I wonder if that had an impact on the 'Honey I like you hair' scenario...?

 

[lmnop7854]

Whew! That was a long damn thread. I was actually hoping for more towards the end, wondering if a woman like the ones you have described would venture in. But obviously Cindy isn't anything like that, and neither am I (I haven't shopped for shoes in 5 years - and I don't "shop" like it was an occupation anyway - can't understand how some women do that). But I did notice
a) how afraid you guys all are of your women, and
b) how this sounded like what you would accuse us women of doing.

I could almost smell the coffee brewing and the clucking of all you hens. Keep it up - it's a good read. Nothing to really comment on, except I feel so sorry for you guys that you can't just talk to your women. Sad, very sad.....

Lisa

 

[KenHigg]

Whew! That was a long damn thread. I was actually hoping for more towards the end, wondering if a woman like the ones you have described would venture in. But obviously Cindy isn't anything like that, and neither am I (I haven't shopped for shoes in 5 years - and I don't "shop" like it was an occupation anyway - can't understand how some women do that). But I did notice
a) how afraid you guys all are of your women, and
b) how this sounded like what you would accuse us women of doing.

I could almost smell the coffee brewing and the clucking of all you hens. Keep it up - it's a good read. Nothing to really comment on, except I feel so sorry for you guys that you can't just talk to your women. Sad, very sad.....

Lisa

It's really quite simple. We're intimidated...

And besides, if you think the relationship is complex between spouses, consider the complexity of a relationship between competing females

 

[Len Boorman]

I feel so sorry for you guys that you can't just talk to your women. Sad, very sad.....

Lisa

We do...We do

Its just that some ladies tend to hear something different to what we actually say or read something into it that is not there

L

 

[ColinEssex]

Here's another one - When I ask her what I should wear she's says "Honey, I don't care'. Then after I take a shirt off the hanger she rolls her eyes...

Ken you really are dicing with death even if it is an experiment

The shirt thing? we've all had the "you're not wearing that shirt are you?" remark with piercing eyes that can strip wallpaper. Just say, "you liked this shirt when I bought it 10 years ago"

except I feel so sorry for you guys that you can't just talk to your women. Sad, very sad.....

Its not being afraid. . . . . Its better to shut up than to have a comment misconstued and slung back in your face for the next 15 years. . . . . . . . .

e.g.
woman - "I remembered you said you didn't like my hair style"

man - "yes I did, but that was in 1973. . . . ."

Col

 

[ColinEssex]

This am as she was drying her hair I ask was she doing something new with her hair. She said 'Sweetheart - I'm still fixing it.',

Your timing is way out Ken - its like looking at someone painting a picture with only sky so far and saying what a fab picture it is

she then paused an said 'Why'.

See?? told you. . . immediately suspicious

I said 'I don't know, I thought it looked different and it looked nice...

very weak ending. . . points to guilt (in her eyes) it must be an affair

So it kinda died there

yep it died alright, not in her mind though, she'll remember it for years.

until I got my 'have a good day' kiss when I again teased her by looking curiously and with a silly grin, at her hair - but saying nothing. She smiled and said 'Sweetheart, I really haven't done anything different but thanks anyway'.

she's still thinking, that was a token thanks - she's confused now, and won't stop thinking about it

I'm really not sure what the net result of this experiment is...

sorry Ken - the result is you need to think things through a bit more

I'm going to guess women simply like a little attention now & then,

Birthday and christmas

I wonder how many times in the last hour she's wondered why I mentioned her hair... :0

you'll know soon enough when she never stops digging for the reason why you said it - and just saying "I felt like saying it" won't wash

Col

 

[KenHigg]

Ken you really are dicing with death even if it is an experiment

I am in the middle of another experiment; I had been conditioned to appear upset about things because I was expected to be upset. Like when there is no milk in the morning for my cereal. It really didn't matter - heck I would then be able to stop by the store and get me a sausage biscuit! But I would grumble around a bit just for the sake of grumbling... The last few days I've been doing the oh well thing and I think it may be rubbing off on cupcake and I think I like her being a little less stressed out over trivial things....

 

[ColinEssex]

Like when there is no milk in the morning for my cereal. It really didn't matter - heck I would then be able to stop by the store and get me a sausage biscuit! But I would grumble around a bit just for the sake of grumbling...

Not good a) it gives the impression you think its her job to get everything b) it shows you have no thought of noticing the milk may run out and offering to get it on the way home the previous night. c) you're lucky you didn't get the new milk slammed down in front of you next day[/quote]

The last few days I've been doing the oh well thing and I think it may be rubbing off on cupcake and I think I like her being a little less stressed out over trivial things....

so cupcake is obviously harbouring all these things and getting stressed. They'll all come slamming back at you in time. . . . . wait and see. . . . it may be in 2020 but the milk incident in 2006 will rise to the fore like it was yesterday

They say elephants never forget - but believe me they're amateurs compared to women

What on earth is a sausage biscuit?

Col

 

[Kraj]

What on earth is a sausage biscuit?

Remember, in U.S. biscuits are more like your muffins. Shown below is the creepy, yet oh-so-tasty McDonald's version.

Oh, and Ken....

About not letting the little things bother you, that'll be better for the both of you in the long run. Say hello to relief from stress-related illness.

As far as the clothing goes, does the phrase "patience of Job" mean anything to you? There is no way to win this unless you intend on putting a lot of time and energy into developing your fashion sense. She may say she doesn't care what you wear, but any fool knows that's a lie. Try meeting her halfway: "What do you think of this shirt?" That way she has input without feeling like she has to dress you. But whatever you do, don't wear whatever you feel like without her approval.

 

[KenHigg]

Holy cow - I googled and got this:

Link

And I thought it was some pig, a little martha white and some buttermilk

 

[lmnop7854]

Not good a) it gives the impression you think its her job to get everything b) it shows you have no thought of noticing the milk may run out and offering to get it on the way home the previous night. c) you're lucky you didn't get the new milk slammed down in front of you next day

I'm with you there, Col. I have to admit, that's how I would have taken it. My BF is notorious for that kind of crap. He comes home from school on a Friday (he goes to school about 300 miles away), and bitches because there is no food in the house for him, when I have been living for the last 5 days without him in the house, and last went shopping on Saturday.

I am also constantly getting the "what are we doing for dinner?" question asked of me, as if I am the sole proprietor of said dinner, and the only one with any original thought on the subject (well, that could be true).

so cupcake is obviously harbouring all these things and getting stressed. They'll all come slamming back at you in time. . . . . wait and see. . . . it may be in 2020 but the milk incident in 2006 will rise to the fore like it was yesterday

They say elephants never forget - but believe me they're amateurs compared to women

Ok, I'm not all on that slamming thing, because I don't think it is fair to slam the BF later on something he didn't realize I was upset about. I slam him right then!!! Truth be told, he is pretty notorious for doing that to me. He never tells me what is bothering him, until I bring up something, and then he tries to throw all this other crap at me that he has been harboring for centuries.

I equate that to having your boss slam things on your evaluation at the end of the year that he/she never told you about during the year. It gives you no time to process the issue, or make any amends, or even try to do better.

And, OMG, Kraj - that is the most unpalatable-looking biscuit ever. Perhaps if the picture wasn't so big. I can practically count the fat calories from here.....

Lisa